What if Your Relationship is Complete?

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What if Your Relationship is Complete?

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What if Your Relationship is Complete?

“Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go.” Hermen Hesse

 

I know…

I know…..

We are taught that the relationship with our spouse is supposed to last forever (specifically, until death do us part…)…

And I think most of us walk into marriage with the best of intentions, actually believing in that possibility of forever and some version of happily ever after.

And when forever becomes an impossibility in our marriages – unable to imagine one more month…one more year – we beat ourselves up pretty badly for not being able ...continue reading...

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Will He Ever Change?

“The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.”  Thomas Merton

 

The short answer is, “Yes, people can change.” Change is absolutely possible (…I’m living proof), but it usually takes us hitting our version of rock-bottom in order to become uncomfortable enough to seek change and be open to a new way.

The long answer is, “We resist change.” Change causes discomfort, and we certainly aren’t comfortable with discomfort. So the discomfort ...continue reading...

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The REAL Story about My First Marriage and Why It Ended

“Your story will heal you and your story will heal somebody else. When you tell your story, you free yourself and give other people permission to acknowledge their own story.” Iyanla Vanzant

 

When I was in my first marriage and facing the Why isn’t this marriage enough? question myself, I had some soul-searching to do. I began where it felt easy: by blaming my husband.

I created a story in my mind that he couldn’t love me the way I needed to be loved.

I told myself that I wanted something he couldn’t give.

There is ...continue reading...

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