“When the sun has set, no candle can replace it.” George R. R. Martin
Rachel has love for her husband, but she’s no longer in love with him.
Rachel and her husband have been married for ten years and their relationship feels more like distant roommates than connected lovers who deeply care for one another. She shares with me that he’s a great guy, but that he is emotionally unavailable.
They’ve tried counseling. He refused to go back after the counselor pointed out that he is emotionally unavailable and verbally abusive.
They tried date nights. It felt like work.
...continue reading...“Have patience. All things are difficult before they become easy.” Saadi
If you’ve been struggling for a long time in your marriage, there’s likely a part of you that wants to make this marriage work and a part of you that’s ready to throw in the towel.
I know it would be so much easier if you could just find a way to re-connect with your husband.
It would be so much easier if he would just be the man you need him to be.
It would be so much easier if you could just stop thinking that ...continue reading...
“If you don’t know what you want, you’ll never find it. If you don’t know what you deserve, you’ll always settle for less. You will wander aimlessly, uncomfortably numb in your comfort zone, wondering how life has ended up here.” Rob Liano
Lynne was only 24 years old when she met James. She had recently graduated college and was getting a masters in teaching at the time. James was six years older than Lynne and was nearing the end of his residency to become a pediatrician. He was kind and caring. He was solid and safe. He was ...continue reading...
“Love is never lost. If not reciprocated, it will flow back and soften and purify the heart.” Washington Irving
During my first marriage, I wasn’t a Master Life Coach. I was in corporate marketing, and I was an overachiever, constantly searching for that next promotion, that next job, or that next big project. There was almost nothing I couldn’t accomplish by working harder or attempting more effort, control….force. I was far too preoccupied with making my life look picture-perfect to actually live it. I survived on ego-candy and brought that same controlling energy home at night. You can ...continue reading...
“Those things we can’t find closure on, they haunt us. They pop up in our dreams, and creep into our thoughts in idle moments…” Lisa Unger
Kristen and her husband were together for 11 years. She thought they had a happy life: they had two amazing boys, a beautiful home and both were happy in their careers. Sure, there were times that they were disconnected as a couple, but she never felt like their marriage was in trouble.
Until her husband asked her for a divorce.
He said he didn’t love her anymore. He said there was someone ...continue reading...
“…just as darkness is nothing but the absence of light, so fear is nothing but the absence of love.” Marianne Williamson
Alena had been divorced over a year. Everyone told her the first year is the hardest, so why hadn’t the pain of losing her 24 year marriage dissipated by now?
Their marriage wasn’t good. He was verbally and emotionally abusive to her throughout the last 10 years.
And although intellectually she knows she’s better off now without that abuse, she can’t seem to make her heart understand. She misses him, misses having a partner in her life ...continue reading...
“There is a kind of love that is so deep it consumes our hearts, minds, bodies, and souls.
There is a kind of love that is passionate, intimate, and connected.
Sometimes it’s that kind of love that we’ve never felt before that leads us to believe we’ll never feel that way again with another person in the future. And the thought of not having it ever again is almost too much to bear, like a sick joke that’s being played on our hearts.”
Sharon Pope, Soulful Truth Telling: Why Can’t I Get Over Him?
The greatest heartbreak of ...continue reading...
“The wider the gap between two people, the more difficult it is to cross. The greater the distance, the harder it is to bridge. And the further away we travel, the harder it is to find our way back.” Sharon Pope, Soulful Truth Telling: I Know It’s Over. Now What?
Tammy had been married to her husband for 27 years. Ten years ago she found out her husband was having an affair.
Through her sadness and disappointment, she somehow found a way to forgive him and stay together.
She thought he made all the necessary changes: quit his ...continue reading...
“There wasn’t a simple answer to the most difficult question in my life. And there was no way to answer that question without either denying my needs or hurting my husband. There was no answer that friends and family could understand, much less approve of.” Sharon Pope, Soulful Truth Telling: Am I in the Wrong Marriage?
I was in a marriage with a nice, handsome, good man. He was responsible, took care of the finances, worked out four days a week religiously, ironed his clothes for the week every Sunday evening and packed his lunch for work each ...continue reading...
“When the sun has set, no candle can replace it.” George R. R. Martin
Rachel has love for her husband, but she’s no longer in love with him.
Rachel and her husband have been married for ten years and their relationship feels more like distant roommates than connected lovers who deeply care for one another. She shares with me that he’s a great guy, but that he is emotionally unavailable.
They’ve tried counseling. He refused to go back after the counselor pointed out that he is emotionally unavailable and verbally abusive.
They tried date nights. It felt like ...continue reading...
Stuck in one such battle not knowing whether to listen to heart or mind.