“Communication to a relationship is like oxygen to life. Without it…it dies.” Tony Gaskins
The best predictor for whether a couple will ultimately divorce is not their age, income or even whether they are facing stressful life challenges. It’s how they communicate.
Sandra and her husband have been married for 18 years and have two kids together. Her husband thinks their marriage is fine, but Sandra feels like she has more of a roommate than a husband. There is no emotional connection between them, they don’t talk much and they rarely touch. Here’s what she shared with me:...continue reading...
“There is one thing worse than an absolutely loveless marriage: a marriage in which there is love but on one side only.” Oscar Wilde
Seems like an oxymoron, doesn’t it?
I can tell you from firsthand coaching experience, if you feel this describes your life or situation, you’re in good company. It’s what you’re willing to do about it that will set you apart.
Theresa has been married for 30 years. She married when she was young and seemingly invincible, thinking she knew what her life was supposed to look like. Her dream included being married ...continue reading...
“Sorrow comes in great waves…but rolls over us, and though it may almost smother us, it leaves us. And we know that if it is strong, we are stronger, inasmuch as it passes and we remain.” Henry James
I’ve been doing this a long time. And as you know, I’ve been where you’ve are and know what you’re feeling if you’re in a marriage that leaves you feeling trapped and alone, or dishonors who you are.
I understand how scary it can be to look closely at your marriage because….
What if it’s not as picture-perfect as it ...continue reading...
“Without respect, love is lost.” Unknown Author
No one calls a Love Coach when their relationships are going well. So, I’ve spoken to thousands of people about their troubled relationships; some find their way back to one another and some do not.
In the midst of that, here’s what I’ve found:
Love is durable.
It can withstand a lot of ups and downs, all the ebbs and flows that happen in a relationship. It can live through a lot of hurt and still be the light in a dark place. When you love someone, even when things aren’t ...continue reading...