“Telling someone the truth is a loving act.” Mal Pancoast
Cathy is a strong, confident, and independent woman. She doesn’t need a man in her life; but she wants a man in her life. After her divorce 15 years ago, she raised her two sons as a single mom and became a successful business woman. She has a wide circle of friends, is funny, likes to travel and enjoys her life.
But Cathy had convinced herself that “The men she wanted, didn’t want her,” and “The men that wanted her, she didn’t want.”
Over the years, there had been ...continue reading...
“When people show you who they are, believe them.” Dr. Maya Angelou
We’ve all been there before:
This time will be different. He said he would change.
I can love him enough that eventually he’ll change his mind.
He just needs a little more time.
Those of us who are generous and visionary often see the potential in people, rather than the reality.
Those of us who have a lot of love to give think we can love someone through anything and even inspire them to do something different than what they’ve always done.
Those of us ...continue reading...
“You have to learn to get up from the table when love is no longer being served.” Nina Simone
Anne has an ex-husband that is also a part-time terrorist; I’m convinced of it. She also has a business relationship that’s borderline abusive that she’s trying to un-wind. She’s an incredibly caring person with a good spirit and never treats anyone unkindly. Anne just wants the people in her life to treat her with the same kindness and respect that she extends to everyone else.
Kayla is separated from her husband. He wants her to become a Stepford Wife with ...continue reading...
“As long as habit and routine dictate the pattern of living, new dimensions of the soul will not emerge.” Henry Van Dyke
If you want to know what your love life will look like in the coming year, you only need to know the answer to one question:
“Are you willing to do something differently in 2015 than you have in years past?”
That’s the only answer you need to know.
And it can only be answered with a “yes,” or a “no.”
Because if you don’t do or think or feel anything differently than you have ...continue reading...
“You must know what you want, to find what you want.” Lailah Gifty Akita
When we’re opening our hearts to love in an effort to find the love of our lives, many times there is a mental, if not a physical, checklist that exists. Sometimes there are 2 separate lists used for finding love:One listing all the traits we want in a partner, and One of all our “deal-breakers.”
When we’ve got a checklist and we just meet someone new, we immediately begin mentally checking the boxes that we think this person meets as a possible life partner:...continue reading...
“One of the hardest decisions you’ll ever face in life is choosing to walk away or try harder.” Ziad K. Abdelnour
Some really interesting things happen when I share my story in a public way.
Many women step forward and say, “Me too; that’s my story. I also was in a marriage where there was very little connection or passion.” It’s a beautiful gift to know that we’re not alone and that whatever we’re going through, someone else out there has also had that experience.
But many women also tentatively approach me seeking an answer to their very personal ...continue reading...
“Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift.” Mary Oliver
When hearts are broken, it hurts. I’ve lost jobs. I’ve lost friendships. I’ve lost my footing, but nothing kicked me in the stomach and opened me up the way a broken heart did.I know what it’s like to get your heart broken. I know what it’s like to not quite know where your broken heart ends and your own brokenness begins. I know what it feels like to want an unworkable relationship to ...continue reading...
“When you possess light within, you see it externally.” Anaïs Nin
I had lunch with a dear friend this week and he was sharing with me the experience he had recently at Yosemite National Park with his partner and children. His enthusiasm about the Giant Sequoias they saw and the majesty and magic they experienced on their trip all brought chills to me.
As he was talking, the life coach in me couldn’t resist the beautiful metaphor that nature provides to us for our lives.
Sequoias are one of the most massive trees that exist in the world and ...continue reading...
“The moment you can visualize being free from the things that hold you back, you have indeed begun to set yourself free.” Unknown Author
For about the past 5 years, there has been a particular word that has guided my life and my decisions:
I am drawn to the idea of having more freedom in my life.
I want to live my life from a place of choice, rather than from a place of obligation.
I want ...continue reading...
“Above all, don’t lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love.” Fyodor Dostoyevsky, The Brothers Karamazov
It needs no definition – you know what I’m talking about. They’re the little untruths we tell ourselves and everyone else that keep us from living an authentic life. We think our little lies are harmless because they’re not actually hurting anyone – but ...continue reading...