Why We Choose to Cheat Instead of Leave a Bad Marriage

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Why We Choose to Cheat Instead of Leave a Bad Marriage

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Why We Choose to Cheat Instead of Leave a Bad Marriage

“The truly scary thing about undiscovered lies is that they have a greater capacity to diminish us than exposed ones. They erode our strength, our self-esteem, our very foundation.” Cheryl Hughes

My client, Susan, was cheating on her husband of 27 years. The affair had been going on for two years and even though she knew it was wrong and destructive and disrespectful to her husband, she wouldn’t turn away from it. It provided her the simple, but dangerous distraction from the emptiness that existed within her marriage. Her marriage wasn’t bad, it was just empty: no connection, no ...continue reading...

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  1. Hi Sharon,
    Wow. You could’ve written that about my life. After 27 years of marriage I did take the scary leap and filed for divorce. I am leaving a verbally and emotionally abusive marriage with a Cerebral Narcissist. Young moms who are divorcing will ask me why I stayed so long. The abuse was very insidious and covert. And when I stopped “complying and supplying” him, he became someone I no longer recognized. Evil. Pure evil. Like your client, I had an affair. Something I would judge others harshly for in the past. I never in my wildest dreams would’ve thought I would be that person. And I must tell you, it was the worst and best thing I ever did. This affair opened my eyes to what was really happening in my marriage. I needed to feel validated and desired. For the most part my marriage was sexless. And I believed i thought I was undeserving and disgusting to him. That’s what he wanted me to believe. But you are right. The affair was a soul sucker. It went against everything I held dear. My values were broken. And the red flags of him using me for sex were clear. But I chose to dismiss them. He was married too, but wanted a side piece. Me. I tried justifying it all I could. I even told my husband about the affair. BIG MISTAKE. You don’t tell a Narcississt you cheated on him. He is determined to destroy my name and me, but I am not willing to give him anymore than he has taken from me!

    by Lisa on April 20th, 2018 at 6:12 pm
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