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Why Isn’t This Enough? is for the woman who has everything she’s ever wanted: the nice husband, the healthy kids, the big home, even the career of her choosing. They have enough money, take family vacations and their kids are in a good school and thriving in their extra-curricular activities.
From anyone else’s perspective, her life looks pretty enviable. Then why isn’t this enough?
She married for safety and security. She married the good guy that wouldn’t hurt her. She plays the role of super-Mom because she can, and because she can’t seem to say “no,” to anyone but her husband. But after long days of caring for everyone else, connecting with her husband in any meaningful way feels like a chore and one more person that needs something from her. She has love for her husband and the father of her children, but she fears she’s fallen out of love with him.
She chose this path, this marriage, this life, so why then does she feel so empty and alone?
And if this isn’t enough, will it ever be enough?
What would it take to feel happy and is that even possible?
What kind of miracle is needed for this…all this….to feel good?
Why Isn’t This Enough? guides the reader through the answers to that important question and explores if the marriage can be transformed into a relationship that feels like more than enough.
“This is the second of Sharon Pope’s books that I’ve read and I’ve go to say, her books are very insightful and thought-provoking. Within these pages, Sharon encourages readers to get honest with themselves about who they are and what they really want out of life without placing blame. I can wholeheartedly related to several of the client examples she uses in the book, along with her own story of her first marriage. I had many a-ha moments while reading this book that made me feel less inclined to focus on the negatives about how I got to where I am in my life and relationship with my hubby. I also got a refreshing reminder that the responsibility for my own happiness lies with me and that all of the small daily choices I make in my life add up to my where I currently am. Sharon shares that we came here to learn, expand, grow and enjoy our journey in this world. And sometimes that means to stay, sometimes that means to go and only we know the answers to that. This book helps you come to a place of thoughtful reflection in regards to your relationship. I’d highly recommend this book to anyone feeling stuck in their marriage and needing some helpful insights as they try to navigate and understand the mixed feelings they are having regarding their relationship and where to go from here.”
“Sharon has a way of conveying this topic in a very accessible and simple way. The power is in the simplicity…. to see your own story reflected in the stories of some of Sharon’s clients was powerful and provided for serious self reflection. I do feel like this book walks the very fine difficult between reading it with the mentality of “I’m out” vs “This marriage has hope”. I feel this makes a great starting point for discussions with your spouse (if you are on the hopeful side of things) or a support for those on the “I’m out” side of things.”
“Thank you Sharon for having the courage and being willing to share your personal story and others with those of us who feel broken, alone, lost and stuck.
I would recommend this book to those questioning their relationship. It isn’t going to solve your problems but will hopefully give you some guidance in how to get unstuck.”
“Having discontent in my own relationship, my emotions sometime make it difficult to see my situation clearly. This book has brought into light new information, as well as solidifying what I know as true, and then finally, acceptance. I am grateful.”
“I was first introduced to Sharon Pope through a webinar and when I heard her present I felt as if she was talking directly to me. When I started reading Why Isn’t this Marriage Enough? I couldn’t put it down, I felt as if every vignette were speaking to me. The book was an easy read, and for talking about a topic that is difficult, I felt that Sharon did an excellent job of conveying her warmth and compassion through the pages. I highly recommend this book to others, especially if you are in a marriage and you are struggling but can’t put your finger on as to why. I felt very hopeful reading this book. I think there was a part of me waiting for my husband to take action, but I realized that if I want to have more love, I need to be more loving.”
“I thought this was an excellent, eye-opening book. Sharon Pope writes in a way that everyone can relate to and it’s so nice to know that she and other women have experiences similar to my own! I have read all of her books and I love the way she shares her thoughts so openly and everything she says makes sense. She speaks to and also can relate to the fear that keeps so many women stuck, but also offers encouragement to those so close to making the decision to either leave or stay. She makes you dig really deep inside yourself to figure out what you’re feeling and that is what I love about her. I think Sharon is fantastic and she’s obviously found her true calling!”
“I have been on this journey for a while now and am grateful to have read this book. It truly is a flip flop of a decision…right vs. wrong, in love vs. maybe not. Sharon’s honesty that she shares about real feelings and thoughts is refreshing– it touches right at the core of the issue. I recommend this book to anyone who is not sure, and who needs to be both validated and challenged to consider their heart. It is in no way a negative approach to a very serious and soulful matter…and I’m grateful for the support and gentle nudging to consider my own heart and soul.”
“I felt like Sharon completely understood what I’ve been feeling and put into words what I haven’t been able to. It was a great relief to find that I am not the only one feeling this way. It gave me a lot to think about and I have more personal reflection to do. Sharon has given me the courage to start working on it. I recommend this book to anyone that has asked themselves the question, “My life is great, why am I unhappy in my marriage?”“
“A great guide that answers some of the painful questions around being married and feeling unhappy or dissatisfied with the status quo. Sometimes it’s fixable and sometimes it’s not. Either way, it all boils down to the reasons we find ourselves in this space and more often than not, it’s because we have not questioned ourselves sufficiently (or even known how to or that we can and should) to know what we want or need or what makes us happy in life and in our relationships.”