“People always fall in love with the most perfect aspects of each other’s personalities. Who wouldn’t? Anybody can love the most wonderful parts of another person. But that’s not the clever trick. The really clever trick is this: Can you accept the flaws?” Elizabeth Gilbert
You’ve heard the saying that when you marry someone, you marry their entire family. There’s certainly some truth to that.
But when you marry someone, you also marry something else: every experience they’ve ever had.
It is the experiences in our lives that shape who we are, and we bring who we are – all of it – to our marriages.
When you decided to marry, you married every conscious and unconscious experience that your spouse has had because it shapes how they show-up inside your marriage.
And he too, married every conscious and unconscious experience you’ve ever had that has shaped who you are and how you show-up inside the marriage.
You marry every dream and desire your partner has.
You marry every fear and insecurity your partner carries.
You marry every conscious and unconscious belief your partner holds.
What are the experiences that are showing-up inside your marriage? And more importantly, are they helping or hurting your marriage?
If you’re struggling in your marriage, let’s see if I can help.