“The longest journey you will make in your life is from your head to your heart.” Sioux legend
Tammy was a woman that found me through Facebook. She had read the blog post I wrote on narcissism and knew she needed help getting out of her toxic, abusive and emotionally destructive relationship. She’s given up everything to be with a man that makes her feel isolated, weak and lost.
A woman who was once happy, positive and confident is now – 4 years later after falling in love with a narcissist – a shell of a woman who knows intellectually she needs to leave this relationship, but can’t seem to make her heart understand.
When it comes to matters of the heart – even the ones that hurt – it’s not an intellectual conversation.
When every single friend you have tells you to leave – begs you to leave – and you know everyone can’t possibly be wrong…
When your son sees you being screamed at by his father – but your husband is good to your son and a good provider for the family – how do you just walk?
When your sister tells you that you’ve become unrecognizable and it’s breaking her heart to watch – your intent was never to hurt your sister…
For anyone who’s not emotionally entangled in that relationship, it’s all very clear.
But that message hasn’t yet made its way to your heart.
So you stay, get sucked back in, hope and believe that maybe someday…he’ll be happy.
Maybe someday he’ll claim you, remain faithful, and become the man you believe he can be.
Maybe someday he’ll look at you like he used to.
I understand this place because I’ve been there. I understand this place because many of my clients look to me to guide them through that place – helping them be strong when they don’t feel very strong. I understand this place and here’s what I know:
The woman that loves a man that hurts her heart and steals her soul has to be the one to do the work to unwind the damage and heal the wounds.
She has to come back home to her own heart so she can hear and feel her own inner wisdom.
She has to become strong enough that she can safely walk away.
And she has to be aware enough to never get back into another relationship like that again.
And that is her soul’s journey.