“If you withhold love as a form of punishment, who is being punished?” Donald L. Hicks
Here’s how most relationships work:
My spouse will clearly feel the difference and will adjust their actions and behaviors accordingly so that the love spicket will once again rain upon them.
That’s not love, that’s attachment and manipulation.
We are taught this from a very young age…
It’s so engrained in us that it’s almost the only way we know how to operate in all of our relationships.
But as they say…”How’s that working?”
Love would be loving because to do so is a choice.
Love would be loving regardless of circumstances.
Love would be loving because it is our true nature to love.
Because by the way, the love we show isn’t FOR them anyway…it’s FOR us. We love because it feels good to love. Love will always feel better than hate.
When we withhold love, we’re hurting ourselves.
More, Not Less…
When the body endures a cut or injury, the body will send more white blood cells to that area to help it in healing. That makes perfect sense. It needs more attention and more focus rather than less.
So where did we get this idea that withholding love will produce any kind of healing in our relationships?
The only thing ever missing from any situation is the love we’re withholding. Maybe we should try supplying more love, rather than less.