“Today I make a stand for truth, as I extend my perceptions beyond what my senses reveal to me, to what I know to be true in my heart.” Marianne Williamson, A Year of Miracles.
My entire life coaching practice is built on the concept of truth. Most people’s initial reaction is that truth is all about being honest and not lying – at least not intentionally. While that’s true (pardon the pun), it’s so much bigger and more beautiful than that. It’s about getting in touch with your own personal truth – that which God placed on your heart. Too often, our minds or other people’s opinions create clouds over that truth, telling us who we should be, what we should have and what we should do. But, that’s our social selves, not the core of who we are. That’s what we allow others to see in us, but that’s necessarily the person we’re trying to become. It’s not our truth.
For me, it all began to make sense when I realized that the desires I have are somewhat unique to me. There are people that will tell you they would rather die than get up and speak in front of an audience; so then why is that the place I love to be? There are plenty of other people that would never consider leaving corporate America and changing careers in mid-life to go and build a business around serving others through coaching simply because it makes my heart sing. I can assure you that plenty of my friends from the corporate world think I’ve fallen and hit my head……hard. I’ve had those desires pulling at me for almost my entire adult life. I believe that those little tugs we feel on our heart weren’t manufactured by us and they’re not going to go away – even if ignored.
Once you know what some of your personal truths are – then it gets really interesting. Now, we have to live that truth and that requires more of us. A wonderful and immensely talented musician named India Arie was being interviewed by Oprah and she was referring to a conversation she had with Dr. Maya Angelou. Dr. Angelou had told India, “Just tell the truth.” And India went on to describe her interpretation of that message as not just being honest with our words, but being honest in how we live our lives – how we show up.
How we show up for our families each day – in our own skin – matters. How we behave around our friends definitely matters. How we present ourselves at the office matters. Do we put on a mask that we think makes us more acceptable and most like everyone else, or do we make ourselves vulnerable enough to let our true selves be seen? Living authentically, showing who we are at our core each day – matters. That’s what living in truth means. Telling the truth has so much more to it than just words.
How do you show up each day? With your family? With your friends? At your job? Have you slowed down long enough to listen to what’s really been placed on your heart? Can you identify at least one truth about yourself? If so, embrace it….the other truths will show themselves to you in time, because they’re not going away.