“Love is a painful, poignant, touching attempt by two flawed individuals to try and meet each other’s needs – with gross uncertainty and ignorance about who they are and who the other person is. But we’ll do our best.” Alain de Botton
If there was a magic pill that you could take that would make you look and feel great, but at least 50% of the people died after taking that pill…would you take it?
If you could place a bet and there was a 50% chance to either win $1MM or lose every dime you had…would you place that bet?
If there were a 50% chance that your beach house would be destroyed by a hurricane, would you live there?
Think about it: If anything else failed at the same rate as marriages fail, most of us would think long and hard before proceeding.
That might lead you to question the validity of marriage altogether.
Certainly the structure of marriage could use a little evolution…
But maybe we should, instead, question how we’re showing-up inside the marriage that’s making us want to end it at least half the time.
Being in a relationship is a skill that (to be successful) needs to be learned.
Being in a long-term intimate relationship with someone is the biggest gamble we take in our lives with the odds not exactly stacked in our favor.
It’s not that marriage – in and of itself – is bad or flawed. It’s that we aren’t equipped to do it well.
It’s also not that we’re bad people. We are good people who are doing the best we can, but screw it up far more often than we care to admit.