“The minute you start keeping score, you’re destroying the relationship.” Tony Robbins
She became controlling, but he shut down and became distant.
She stopped wanting to be physical, but he cheated.
He felt unappreciated, but she felt unloved.
Sometimes in relationships we keep a mental scorecard of all the ways our partner has hurt us. We tuck those instances into a virtual file in our minds that we use to justify our own choices and behaviors. We use those pieces of evidence to remind ourselves to guard our hearts, to not fully give ourselves to our partners because ...continue reading...