Our Arguments Never Get Resolved

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Our Arguments Never Get Resolved

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Our Arguments Never Get Resolved

“If someone is arguing with you, you are saying something arguable.” Julia B. Colwell, PhD

 

One of the things I help my private clients do is identify the patterns of engagement with their spouses, specifically how they argue or disagree with one another.  It usually looks something like this:

She expresses something that hurt her, such as “You don’t listen to or understand me.”

He takes that as a personal attack and now feels the need to defend himself.

She tries to get him to see her perspective.

His defending becomes louder and more forceful.

She shuts down ...continue reading...

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