Let’s Talk Love & Bondage…

If You Keep Doing the Same Thing, You Should Expect the Same Result.

Let’s Talk Love & Bondage…

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Let’s Talk Love & Bondage…

“Being aware of the bondage is enough to free you from its clutches.” Mata Amritanandamayi


Here’s how relationships typically work:

When our partners are behaving in a way that we find pleasing, we feel good…

…or at least not bad.

When our partners are behaving in a way that we find displeasing, we feel rotten…

…or disgusted or angry.

But if our feeling good is dependent upon our partner behaving in a certain way…

We’ll always be feeling vulnerable (since we cannot control his actions, choices or behaviors)

And they’ll be in bondage (feeling ...continue reading...

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We Do What We Want to Do. Period.

“Adults get to behave however they want.” Brooke Castillo


My client, Maggie, has begged her husband, Joe, for years to spend more time with her. The kids are grown and off on their own now and Maggie is ready to travel more, go to concerts, art exhibits, and new restaurants. She would like to feel more connected to Joe, but keeps hitting what feels like a brick wall.

She asks him if he wants to plan a trip to the Caribbean and he says, “No, I can’t be away from work for that long.”

She buys tickets to ...continue reading...

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The REAL Story about My First Marriage and Why It Ended

“Your story will heal you and your story will heal somebody else. When you tell your story, you free yourself and give other people permission to acknowledge their own story.” Iyanla Vanzant


When I was in my first marriage and facing the Why isn’t this marriage enough? question myself, I had some soul-searching to do. I began where it felt easy: by blaming my husband.

I created a story in my mind that he couldn’t love me the way I needed to be loved.

I told myself that I wanted something he couldn’t give.

There is ...continue reading...

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