“You’ve been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” Louise L. Hay
My client Jennifer seems to be getting judgements and criticisms from all angles right now. And it’s hurtful to her. It makes her doubt herself. It chips away at her self-esteem. It brings on endless tears.
Her soon-to-be-ex-husband thinks she is immature and indulgent.
Her daughter thinks she’s selfish for leaving the marriage in the first place.
Even one of her good friends gave her a back-hand comment implying that, to some degree, she deserves the pain ...continue reading...
“This self-love you think you’re looking for is not love of self, it’s love that is self. And there’s a difference.” Abraham Hicks
This week, I spoke to several women – spread out all over the country – who are struggling with the concept of self-love.
They know they need more confidence and courage in order to live the adventurous lives they desire.
They know they need to be more gentle and compassionate with themselves so they can stop the self-sabotage.
They know they need self-love in order to find the deep, soulful, lasting love they desire in ...continue reading...
“Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here.” Marianne Williamson
I speak to women every day that tell me what they want in their love lives: a lasting, secure and passionate love.
I also speak to women who tell me what they don’t want: they want out of the pain, they want to become unstuck, they don’t want to keep attracting the same people and making the same mistakes.
But because we’re so accustomed to walking the path of fear first in our lives (play it safe, there’s not enough good men out there, ...continue reading...
“There are 2 basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all life has to offer with passion, excitement and acceptance.” John Lennon
Everything we do moves us either closer to fear or closer to love.
Moving closer to fear feels like hiding ourselves, suppressing our insecurities, running from the truth, or trying to make love happen.
Fear feel like wanting love by our sides, but never being willing to take the steps forward to make that happen.
Fear moves us towards self-judgments such ...continue reading...
“Consciously or not, we are all on a quest for answers, trying to learn the lessons of life. We grapple with fear and guilt. We search for meaning, love, and power. We try to understand fear, loss and time. We seek to discover who we are and how we can become truly happy.” Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
Our lives are always teaching, always whispering, always guiding.
Sometimes that guidance takes the form of things that feel good, but many times it takes the form of pain, despair or frustration. It almost always seems to appear in clusters, which is the ...continue reading...
“But even when I stop crying, even when we fall asleep…this will leave another scar. No one will see it. No one will know. But it will be there. And eventually, all of the scars will have scars, and that’s all I’ll be – one big scar of a love gone wrong.” Amanda Grace, But I Love Him
Physical abuse can be easy to spot. There’s no denying bruised ribs, a swollen eye or as is the case with my loving and strong mother-in-law, burned skin all over one of her arms; a reminder that never goes away.
“If love is the treasure, laughter is the key.” Yakov Smirnoff
Somewhere – out there- there is a small, little, narrow box that people live in. I tease my brother about his box because he doesn’t like to travel outside of Ohio or even drive downtown. My parents think that because I do yoga and practice meditation that I must be worshipping idols. There are days I wonder how I was born into this family and it makes me laugh.
I make light of the fact that I’m a recovering Catholic because I’m a divorced, gay-loving, open-hearted, woman that ...continue reading...
“Do you have the courage to stand inside yourself and be who you really are?” Oprah Winfrey
I had the absolute pleasure of being able to train this week with the best life coaches in the world, including arguably the most successful life coach there is – Martha Beck. I was inspired and challenged, encouraged and motivated. I gained insight from life coaches that have been helping people live out loud for more than 10 years. It was, in a word: amazing.
One of my takeaways from the training was the reminder that it’s important as coaches that we ...continue reading...
“The sweeter you are to yourself, the sweeter you will be to the world.” Sharon Pope
A few months ago, I read a life coaching inquiry by someone named Amy that said, “I’ve tried yoga, but I found myself crying at the end of each yoga practice, so I don’t want to do that anymore.” When you get in touch with your breath – the way you do in yoga, the way a singer loosens up their vocal cords, the way dancers or actors do before going on stage – you cannot hide your emotions. Breathing brings all of ...continue reading...