Maybe Communication Isn’t the Only Answer to Creating Intimacy

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Maybe Communication Isn’t the Only Answer to Creating Intimacy

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Maybe Communication Isn’t the Only Answer to Creating Intimacy

“Intimacy transcends the physical. It is a feeling of closeness that isn’t about proximity, but of belonging.” Steve Maraboli

 

Men and women clearly have different strengths.

Women are naturally better at communicating than men. There have been a wide number of studies showing that women possess a larger vocabulary, process information and speak more quickly, literally using more words every day than men do.

And likewise, there are a number of things that men are naturally better at than women, such as problem solving, being direct and to-the-point, and even excelling at some mental tasks.

Science has told ...continue reading...

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What if I Don’t Want to Save My Marriage?

“A major life decision is never a choice but rather a realization that the decision has already been made.” Doug Cooper

 

My husband and I were newly separated. I had moved into a furnished apartment about 20 minutes away and he was in living in our home wondering what the hell had just happened.

He asked me if I would go to marriage counseling with him…

And I knew I should…

That would be the right thing to do, after all…

What kind of person wouldn’t at least try?

But I didn’t want to.

I didn’t really ...continue reading...

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Indecision Sucks

“Waiting hurts. Forgetting hurts. But not knowing which decision to take can sometimes be the most painful.” Paulo Coelho

 

The thought of staying feels hopeless, but the thought of leaving and breaking up my family is terrifying.

I’ve heard this in various ways probably hundreds of times over the years of doing this relationship work. And every time I hear a woman speak those words to me, I can feel the amount of pain she’s enduring. It’s a place of genuine confusion. It’s the place of feeling stuck and lost. Confusion and indecision feel horrible.

In business, confusion ...continue reading...

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Five Reasons Why So Many People File for Divorce in January and When is the Best Time to Divorce?

“A divorce is like an amputation: you survive it, but there’s less of you.” Margaret Atwood

January may be the coldest month for both weather and marriages. It is notoriously the highest month for divorce filings – appropriately referred to as “Divorce Month” in legal circles. And historically, the first full week back to work – which is next week – will be the busiest week of Divorce Month for lawyers.

Maybe if you’re facing this yourself, it provides you a bit of comfort knowing that you’re not alone. But just because it’s the month where the most divorces ...continue reading...

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Thirty Phrases that can Save a Troubled Marriage

Words are powerful. And although actions are important, our words can be the things that either divide us further or soften us to one another. Sometimes, just a simple phrase can de-escalate an argument or soften someone’s heart enough for them to hear you or engage with you differently.

Imagine you come home late from working all day and the house is a mess, the kids are running around crazy and your husband is sitting on the sofa in front of the TV. Assuming he’s being lazy, you might instantly feel angry and resentful. Your natural reaction might be ...continue reading...

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When Temporary Separation from Your Partner is a Good Thing

I’m a love coach and I speak to women every single day who are struggling in their relationships. Recently, my client, Sara called me in tears, and articulated something I identified with: “I feel like I’m living in the movie Groundhog Day, where every day is the same painful experience with my husband over and over again. Something has to change.”

Or take my client, Kacey, who sent me a text the moment that she had the following realization, “I think my marriage is over. I feel frozen.”

And my client, Vivian, who is currently breaking up with her ...continue reading...

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Does It Take Two People to Fix a Marriage?

“We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used to create them.” Albert Einstein

 

I received a client application recently that shared with me, “We have so many problems and we’ve been disconnected for so long that I don’t know if it will do any good for me to work on the marriage if he’s not also working on fixing the problems in our marriage. Is it possible for me to fix a marriage by myself?”

Many of us believe that in order to fix a relationship, both parties need to be present and actively working on ...continue reading...

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What I’m Learning from Coaching Men

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”  Viktor E Frankl

 

From the beginning, I always knew I would work with women – particularly women of a certain age….those of us who are old enough to know where we’ve gone wrong and determined enough to create relationships that feel connected and intimate.

And I’ve played with the idea throughout the last year of coaching couples…

But I’m not sure I ever saw this one coming…I’ve started coaching men.

Yes, men.

Some very brave men.

Men that want to be the ...continue reading...

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Can We Save this Marriage?

Even good marriages fail. One minute you’re standing on solid ground. The next minute, you’re not. And there’s always two versions: yours and theirs. Both versions start the same way, though. Both start with two people falling in love. Grey’s Anatomy

Natalie’s marriage is on the ropes. She and her husband are living apart, they’ve filed the paperwork and the divorce process is underway. But she’s still not sure if she can walk away from more than 2 decades with this man she pledged to love forever. They haven’t had an emotional connection for a long time, she never ...continue reading...

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