“Each night ask yourself…when did you withhold love when you might have given it?” Marianne Williamson
My client, Marilyn, told me it had been at least 5 years since she and her husband had sex.
She said they fall asleep each night lying next to one another, but feeling a million miles away from him.
Through tears Marilyn shared that she hadn’t been held in at least that long.
That’s 1825 days without affection.
1825 days without physical closeness and connection.
1825 days without feeling seen and understood.
1825 days without emotional support, intimacy and vulnerability.
1825 days ...continue reading...
“Some people we just outgrow. Relationships might end with no real explanation as to why. And when that happens, respect the shift. Honor the growth and understand that not all roots can stay planted in the same soil forever.” Alex Elle
Yesterday I was asked the question from someone struggling in their marriage, “Have I outgrown my relationship?” Interesting that I was a guest on a podcast where we discussed that exact topic (link to that soulful conversation below) recently. I’ve never told this angle on my life or my first marriage before…but I think it’s important to ...continue reading...
“Communication is the fuel that keeps the fire of your relationship burning. Without it, your relationship goes cold.” William Paisley
The health of our relationships is directly tied to our ability to communicate. When we don’t do it well, it creates conflicts and disconnection in our relationships. And when we do it well, we create relationships that feel more open, honest and trusting.
But maybe you knew that already…
Here’s something I recently read that blew my mind:
When asked what they would like more of in their marriage that they don’t currently have – both men and women ...continue reading...
“The way I see it, our natural human instinct is to fight or flee that which we perceive to be dangerous. Although this mechanism evolved to protect us, it serves as the single greatest limiting process to our growth.” Charles F. Glassman
Some couples argue when they’re not getting along, allowing anger to take over. Some create more distance in relationships to avoid dealing with the problems that exist. There’s actually a biological reason why this is happening.
There is a part of each of our brains – scientists refer to it as the reptilian brain – where the ...continue reading...
“The best investment you can make is in yourself.” Warren Buffett
I am not an inexpensive coach. And I make no apologies for that. Here’s why…
What you’re investing in is the result. Not my time. Not the value of the tools. Not my background, education or experience. Although all those things contribute to the result, what you’re investing in is a proven process to get you The Result.Want to fix your marriage? What would that be worth to you to wake up each day feeling good about your husband, your marriage and the kind of relationship you’re ...continue reading...
“When the sun has set, no candle can replace it.” George R. R. Martin
Rachel has love for her husband, but she’s no longer in love with him.
Rachel and her husband have been married for ten years and their relationship feels more like distant roommates than connected lovers who deeply care for one another. She shares with me that he’s a great guy, but that he is emotionally unavailable.
They’ve tried counseling. He refused to go back after the counselor pointed out that he is emotionally unavailable and verbally abusive.
They tried date nights. It felt like work....continue reading...
We all have pain in relationships. And many times, the arguments that result from that pain are circular.
“I have found the paradox that if you love until it hurts there can be no more hurt, only more love.” Mother Theresa
Let me see if I can do this story justice….
Renee and Pete love one another; truly. And they both sincerely want to make their relationship work.
Some days she can’t imagine ever spending her life with anyone else. There is great chemistry. There is a comfort between them. She says she’s never loved anyone the way ...continue reading...
“Lessons in life will be repeated until they are learned.” Frank Sonnenberg
We all have that one friend that swears she’s unlucky at love.
Maybe you know someone who always seems to make the same relationship mistakes, attracting the wrong guy: the guy who can’t commit, the guy who won’t be faithful, or the guy who is already taken.
And you may have repeating patterns in your own relationships that keep you wondering, “Why does this always happen to me?”
My client, Janell, grew up in a household with a father that was a bully. He was always ...continue reading...
“You cannot have a happy ending to an unhappy journey.” Abraham-Hicks
Yesterday I was interviewed by Jim Masters, a successful TV and Radio Personality and Host of CUTV News and we talked about the only way to create real change in troubled relationships.
The 30 minute interview went quickly and the conversation was fun and easy. But my insight came after the interview was over and we were just talking.
He was telling me about a conversation he was having with a friend who had achieved a great deal of success in life by almost anyone’s standards; it ...continue reading...
“The softness of a person’s nature doesn’t mean weakness, because nothing is softer than water but its force can break the strongest rocks.” Syed Mustafa Faraz Ahmad
I know a lot of strong women.
I was raised by one.
I am one myself.
Some of the greatest changes in the world were a result of women’s efforts.
I could argue that the world would literally shut down if it weren’t for strong women showing up for themselves and others every day.
There’s a reason that women are the ones who can create and give birth to new life; ...continue reading...