“Some people we just outgrow. Relationships might end with no real explanation as to why. And when that happens, respect the shift. Honor the growth and understand that not all roots can stay planted in the same soil forever.” Alex Elle
Yesterday I was asked the question from someone struggling in their marriage, “Have I outgrown my relationship?” Interesting that I was a guest on a podcast where we discussed that exact topic (link to that soulful conversation below) recently. I’ve never told this angle on my life or my first marriage before…but I think it’s important to ...continue reading...
“It is not only what we do, but also what we do not do, for which we are accountable.” John Baptiste Molière
There’s a very clear reason why people hire personal trainers.
It’s not because they need someone to show them how to hop on a treadmill or how to lift a weight. They could do that on their own.
People invest in a personal trainer primarily for the accountability a trainer provides, as well as how a trainer pushes them beyond where they might go if they were working on their own.
I had a woman reach ...continue reading...
“Nothing dies harder than a bad idea.” Julia Cameron
Stacey has been struggling in her marriage for years, specifically the last two years. She feels lonely and empty. She feels unseen and unappreciated.
So, she did what most of us might do; she asked her husband if he’d be willing to go to marriage counseling with her.
Here’s why that rarely works:
When you ask your spouse to go to marriage counseling with you, what he hears you saying is, “There’s something wrong with you and we need someone to fix it.” No one wants to be fixed. ...continue reading...
“Just like the lotus we too have the ability to rise from the mud, bloom out of the darkness, and radiate into the world.” Author Unknown
I don’t go to this place very often. I don’t go there because it’s dark and heavy. I don’t go there because I am such a lover and believer in the perfection of the journey. I don’t go there because I really have forgiven myself.
But once in a while, I go down the slippery slope of beating myself up for the woman I used to be:
I used to be a woman ...continue reading...