Compare and Despair

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Compare and Despair

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Compare and Despair

“The Reason We Struggle with Insecurity is because We Compare Our behind the Scenes with Everyone Else’s Highlight Reel.”  Steven Furtick

 

We live in an interesting time of sharing snippets of happiness on social media while assuming we’re seeing everyone else’s whole picture.

We live in a time where we shout from the rooftops all that is good in our lives and hide the rest in the shadows.

We don’t talk openly about the challenges and we end up feeling like we’re all alone, the only one feeling this way. That’s a slippery slope to thinking we’re somehow ...continue reading...

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How We Love

“The Universe isn’t invested in giving us what we want. It’s invested in teaching us how to love.” Marianne Williamson

 

We may not be able to choose who we fall in love with, but we most certainly get to choose how we love.

We can love with fire or with fear.

We can love with peace or with passion.

We can love with honesty and openness or with doubt and hesitation.

We can even choose to love with our hearts or our minds. One leads us to deep intimacy, the other leads to pragmatic numbness.

We get to ...continue reading...

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Fear or Love: Part 2

“Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here.” Marianne Williamson

I speak to women every day that tell me what they want in their love lives: a lasting, secure and passionate love.

I also speak to women who tell me what they don’t want: they want out of the pain, they want to become unstuck, they don’t want to keep attracting the same people and making the same mistakes.

But because we’re so accustomed to walking the path of fear first in our lives (play it safe, there’s not enough good men out there, ...continue reading...

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Fear or Love: Those are Our Options and We Get to Choose

“There are 2 basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all life has to offer with passion, excitement and acceptance.” John Lennon

Everything we do moves us either closer to fear or closer to love.

Moving closer to fear feels like hiding ourselves, suppressing our insecurities, running from the truth, or trying to make love happen.

Fear feel like wanting love by our sides, but never being willing to take the steps forward to make that happen.

Fear moves us towards self-judgments such ...continue reading...

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Life Will Never be the Same

“Transformation is never easy or painless, but essential to the growth of our soul.” Elizabeth Gilbert

It was the Sunday at the end of a long Thanksgiving weekend. While my husband was out, I packed a bag and placed it in my car.

When my husband came home, we sat there in the foyer and I told him I was leaving. I don’t remember exactly what I said, but I remember that anxious, confused and scared feeling as if it were yesterday.

When I walked out that door of my home that evening, I had crossed a sacred threshold ...continue reading...

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Breakups Force Us to Choose Between Anger and Peace

“You act on the outside how you feel on the inside.” Tracy McMillan

We’ve all been there.

We’ve been in a relationship with someone that we cared about deeply.

In my life, I have been hurt and I have also hurt others. I have had breakups where I was sad and lost and others where I was mad as hell.

When relationships end and hearts are broken, it can be a painful place to exist. We try to make sense of it, determining who was right and who was wrong and looking for some kind of closure. Most of ...continue reading...

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3 Things My Husband has Taught Me about Love

“Soul connections don’t happen every day. When you find one, be grateful. They are gifts. Accept them graciously. The love you’ve been wishing for is here.” Judith Orloff, M.D.

I am a teacher; therefore, I am a lifelong learner. In order to be a great coach and speaker, I have to be continuously learning and challenging myself so that I can serve my clients at my highest level.

I just finished one book and I am in the middle of 3 other books. I just completed 3 online training programs, am in the process of one certification and am ...continue reading...

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My Peace is My Responsibility

“If you’re not positive energy, you’re negative energy.” Mark Cuban

Every interaction with someone carries with it energy and that energy either makes you feel more alive or it makes you feel like running and jumping off a cliff. There have been a few interactions recently that leaned more toward cliff diving than I would like and it got me thinking.

I was sitting at dinner one night with 2 ladies and Marilyn began talking about some of her struggles with becoming an empty-nester. She was very close with her daughter and being able to share both ...continue reading...

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Powerful and Peaceful

“If you surrender to the wind, you can ride it.”  Toni Morrison

When you think of the word powerful, what comes to mind? An executive in a big office? A large crushing wave in the Pacific ocean? It’s defined as “having great power or strength.”

When you think of the word peaceful, what do you think of? Buddha? Meditation? A serene brook with water floating through it. Peaceful is defined as “free from disturbance” or “tranquil”

Why can’t we be simultaneously powerful and peaceful? These words seem like they’re opposites, but they’re really not – or at least they ...continue reading...

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Authenticity & an Aspiring Life Coach

“Do you have the courage to stand inside yourself and be who you really are?”  Oprah Winfrey

I had the absolute pleasure of being able to train this week with the best life coaches in the world, including arguably the most successful life coach there is – Martha Beck. I was inspired and challenged, encouraged and motivated. I gained insight from life coaches that have been helping people live out loud for more than 10 years. It was, in a word: amazing.

One of my takeaways from the training was the reminder that it’s important as coaches that we ...continue reading...

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  1. Beautiful. Wonderfully presented and said.

    by Cindy Snyder on March 27th, 2014 at 10:48 pm
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