The Pain in Relationships is Circular

If You Keep Doing the Same Thing, You Should Expect the Same Result.

The Pain in Relationships is Circular

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The Pain in Relationships is Circular

We all have pain in relationships. And many times, the arguments that result from that pain are circular.

“I have found the paradox that if you love until it hurts there can be no more hurt, only more love.” Mother Theresa


Let me see if I can do this story justice….

Renee and Pete love one another; truly. And they both sincerely want to make their relationship work.

Some days she can’t imagine ever spending her life with anyone else. There is great chemistry. There is a comfort between them. She says she’s never loved anyone the way ...continue reading...

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  1. Hi Sharon. I really enjoy your articles. I have a problem. I’ve been with my husband for 30 years. I seemed to have lost all attraction to him. Does this mean I fell out of love with him and should divorce him?

    by Christine on May 25th, 2017 at 6:33 pm
  2. Hi Christine – I’m so sorry you’re feeling that way. It doesn’t necessarily mean you have to leave your marriage, but it does mean you need to do somthing different – otherwise you will continue to get the same results.This isn’t your fault; no one taught us how to do this – how to create and sustain lasting, loving, connected relationships. Here’s the link to my online application if you’re interested in exploring making the necessary changes to know whether the marriage can feel good again or if it’s time to leave:
    Sending you much love nad light – Sharon

    by Sharon Pope on May 25th, 2017 at 7:54 pm
  3. Very useful and insightful. Good reminder for us to do the hard work inside and break the pattern.

    by Laura Kinoshita on May 26th, 2017 at 1:26 pm
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Was My Ex a Narcissist?

“Narcissists can make you fall in love with them so hard that it feels like you’re giving up a part of your heart to leave them.”  Dr. Judith Orloff

I’ve often said that “One day I’ll write about narcissism,” as I see my clients struggle with it and as I recall my own personal struggle with it many years ago. That day is today. This is an excerpt from that book. My prayer is that it’s helpful for you or someone you love.


I don’t know if our culture has bred an entire generation of narcissists, if we ...continue reading...

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