“Nothing dies harder than a bad idea.” Julia Cameron
Stacey has been struggling in her marriage for years, specifically the last two years. She feels lonely and empty. She feels unseen and unappreciated.
So, she did what most of us might do; she asked her husband if he’d be willing to go to marriage counseling with her.
Here’s why that rarely works:
When you ask your spouse to go to marriage counseling with you, what he hears you saying is, “There’s something wrong with you and we need someone to fix it.” No one wants to be fixed. ...continue reading...
“We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used to create them.” Albert Einstein
I received a client application recently that shared with me, “We have so many problems and we’ve been disconnected for so long that I don’t know if it will do any good for me to work on the marriage if he’s not also working on fixing the problems in our marriage. Is it possible for me to fix a marriage by myself?”
Many of us believe that in order to fix a relationship, both parties need to be present and actively working on ...continue reading...
“Sorrow comes in great waves…but rolls over us, and though it may almost smother us, it leaves us. And we know that if it is strong, we are stronger, inasmuch as it passes and we remain.” Henry James
I’ve been doing this a long time. And as you know, I’ve been where you’ve are and know what you’re feeling if you’re in a marriage that leaves you feeling trapped and alone, or dishonors who you are.
I understand how scary it can be to look closely at your marriage because….
What if it’s not as picture-perfect as it ...continue reading...