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Support Groups Seem Like a Perfectly Logical Idea…

“Never look back unless you’re planning to go that way.” Henry David Thoreau

 

When people are struggling in their marriages, they often feel confused about what to do and scared of making the wrong decision, so understandably they begin seeking answers.

They might be up late at night – sometimes after too many glasses of wine – scrolling through Facebook and Googling things like:

My marriage is in trouble My marriage is over How do I fix my marriage? Will my spouse ever change? Should I stay or should I go?

In all that searching, they don’t have ...continue reading...

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The Guardian of His Solitude

“The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust.” Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet

My client’s husband values freedom more than anything; freedom to express himself, freedom to live his life on his terms, even the freedom to be able to leave at any moment. Feeling the weight of shackles of any kind is like his own ...continue reading...

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When We Betray Ourselves

“Discomfort is a wise teacher.” Carolyn Myss

 

My client, who I’ll refer to here as Stella, had been married for 18 years when she found out that her husband had been involved in an online emotional affair with an ex-girlfriend for at least three years.

Sounds like a betrayal, right?

Yes, it was. But he wasn’t the only one doing some betraying…

Stella couldn’t remember the last time she felt good about her marriage.

They argued a lot and nothing ever seemed to get resolved.

Every time she tried to talk to her husband about the problems in ...continue reading...

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When You Take Responsibility, You Have the Ability to Respond

“One of the greatest challenges in creating a joyful, peaceful and abundant life is taking responsibility for what you do and how you do it. As long as you can blame someone else, be angry with someone else, point a finger at someone else, you are not taking responsibility for your life.” Iyanla Vanzant

 

Fran and Steve had been together for 26 years.

Fran had become more controlling after their children were born and their schedules became more and more chaotic.

She would frequently talk over him when he tried to speak.

She would stifle his ideas and ...continue reading...

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Two Years in Therapy and $6500 Later…

“I like the dreams of the future better than the history of the past.” Thomas Jefferson

 

Jillian has been working on her marriage – trying to make it better – for a long time. She and her husband have been together for 28 years. Things between them were fine at first, even nice, but they were so young and that was so long ago. Then they began having children and spent the next two decades just trying to keep their head above water while growing their family business, running the home, and raising three rowdy boys. But now ...continue reading...

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How are You Showing Up as a Woman?

“One is not born a woman, one becomes one.” Simone De Beauvoir

My client, who I’ll refer to as Tammy, is getting ready to have that incredibly difficult conversation with her husband. She’s been unhappy in her marriage for a long time; it’s not been kept a secret. But she’s preparing to have the conversation where she takes that next big step and shares the decision she’s made to separate with him.

When we’re in the midst of a difficult situation:

Hard conversations we’ve been avoiding for far too long… Sharing our feelings without knowing how it will be ...continue reading...
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50 Ways We Leave Our Lovers

“They were involved in that awkward procedure of getting to unknow each other.” John Irving

Making the decision to leave a marriage doesn’t happen overnight and it’s never made lightly. It’s never a result of one thing, one argument or one issue. By the time someone decides to walk out the door, there have been years or even decades of slowly walking away from one another in small ways every day:

Make excuses to see friends, rather than spend time with your spouse Intentionally drinking alcohol in order to make love Stop dressing up for your partner or trying ...continue reading...
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Your Husband Left. It Didn’t Happen Overnight.

If you husband left, or threatened to leave, this post was written especially for you.

“When you come out of the storm you won’t be the same person that walked in. That’s what the storm is all about.” Haruki Murakami

 

Kaye’s husband, James, had just made a pot of coffee and was standing over the breakfast bar drinking it, looking as though he was a million miles away. He was in his business casual attire that Friday morning, ready to head out to the office. Kaye comes into the kitchen, pours herself a cup and as she’s adding ...continue reading...

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