“The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.” Thomas Merton
The short answer is, “Yes, people can change.” Change is absolutely possible (…I’m living proof), but it usually takes us hitting our version of rock-bottom in order to become uncomfortable enough to seek change and be open to a new way.
The long answer is, “We resist change.” Change causes discomfort, and we certainly aren’t comfortable with discomfort. So the discomfort ...continue reading...
“Your story will heal you and your story will heal somebody else. When you tell your story, you free yourself and give other people permission to acknowledge their own story.” Iyanla Vanzant
When I was in my first marriage and facing the Why isn’t this marriage enough? question myself, I had some soul-searching to do. I began where it felt easy: by blaming my husband.
I created a story in my mind that he couldn’t love me the way I needed to be loved.
I told myself that I wanted something he couldn’t give.
There is ...continue reading...