“I used to feel that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. IT’S NOT. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone.” Robin Williams
We say “I do.”
We settle in as married couple.
We may even plan for children.
We carry the assumption that feeling alone is now a thing of the past. After all, we have someone by our side now “until death do us part.”
So what happens when that relationship feels empty?
What happens when you’re not technically alone, but you’ve never ...continue reading...
“There’s a real sense of freedom—for both you and your partner—when you no longer make him or her responsible for your happiness.” Sharon Pope, Am I in the Wrong Marriage?
Most of us live pretty conditional lives. We’re happy when things are going our way, when we feel really connected to the people in our lives. When our husbands can’t be who we need them to be, we can sometimes bring a more controlling energy to the relationship. We try to convince, to badger, to fight, to reason with him—all varying and fruitless attempts to get him ...continue reading...
“Negative emotions like loneliness, envy, and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; they’re big, flashing signs that something needs to change.” Gretchen Rubin Last Saturday, my client Leslie found herself feeling incredibly sad about a past relationship with a man she loved very much. Historically when she would feel that way, she would judge those emotions of sadness and push them aside:
“Why am I still grieving this?”
“I should be past this by now.”
This time, however, she gave herself permission to stay with the sadness and just allow it be ...continue reading...