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• The Quest to Better Understand Men
• Are you overtaking responsibility for someone else’s feelings?
• Have I Outgrown My Husband?
• Your Kids Aren’t Part of Your Marriage
• When do you know the marriage is over?
• One Simple Way to Get Out of Roommate Status
• Controlling For 30 Years…Until Now.
• Inspiring Isn’t Always Effective
• What Constitutes a Successful Marriage?
• My Marriage is Over
• Looking For Peace When a Marriage is Crumbling
• My Affair Made Me Feel Alive…or Maybe It was Something Else
• Why Can’t I Love My Husband Again?
• What Have You Given Up on in Your Marriage?
• I’m Stuck. I Can’t Leave.
• Why Divorce Should ALWAYS Be an Option
• Why Is Fixing the Relationship My Responsibility?
• What’s the Worst That Will Happen?
• A Mic Drop Marriage Moment
• Why We Don’t Do What We Should Be Doing
• Waiting for Change
• Why is Marriage So Hard? – Part Three
• Why Is Marriage So Hard? – Part Two
• Why is Marriage So Hard? – Part One
• When a Marriage is Tested
• When We’re Not Threatened, We’re Not Defensive
• I’m Stuck. Is That True?
• It’s Going to Get Rough 🌩️
• Three Steps to Getting Your Needs Met in Your Marriage
• A Perfect Storm: Increased Stress and More Time Together
• One Reason for Some Affairs: Disconnection from Self
• Enough is Enough. (Rant Warning)
• Surviving Valentine’s Day when Your Marriage is Struggling
• Do We Need a Clean Slate to Move Forward?
• I Have to Share This Lesson in Perspective with You
• Say “Thank You”
• Obligation and Marriage
• Sounding the Alarm Bells on Gaslighting
• Unconditional Love is Not Unconditional Consequences
• Begin Again
• My Marriage is a Mess. Why Look for Gratitude?
• Alpha Men and Beta Men. Alpha Women and Beta Women.
• Why Most Affairs Don’t Live Happily Ever After
• Give Up the Need to Know…For Now.
• When Loving You is Betraying Myself
• But Aren’t We Supposed to Make Each Other Happy?
• All Growth and Healing Happens in Community
• Choosing Between Two Men
• I Hope I’m Never Someone’s Contingency Plan
• Women Leave Mentally Before They Leave Physically
• The Intensity of Pain
• We Have High Expectations for Our Marriages
• His Wife Is Changing…and He Doesn’t Like It
• A Marriage Tool for Having Difficult Conversations
• Children and Divorce: What if Your Kids Could Thrive?
• Is It Possible to Heal a Marriage After an Affair? Part 3
• Is it Possible to Heal a Marriage After an Affair? Part 2
• Is It Possible to Heal a Marriage After an Affair? Part 1.
• Is Your Marriage Surviving on Leftovers?
• But My Situation Is Different…
• Ten Tips to Divorce Differently
• Difficult Conversations Will Be Uncomfortable
• Can One Person Make a Difference?
• Surviving Infidelity
• Can I Trust Him?
• Will My Husband Ever Change?
• Understanding Emotional Infidelity
• Verbally Abusive Relationship
• How Do You Know When Your Marriage is Over?
• Our Arguments Never Get Resolved
• The Five Steps to Having Difficult Conversations
• She was Putting Her Kids in the Middle
• My Musings on Marriage
• All Love Matters…Even When It Ends
• The Shame of Staying
• Was Your Marriage Put on a Shelf?
• Are You Growing Closer Together or Drifting Further Apart?
• Resentments of an Alpha Female
• If Your Husband is Controlling, Here’s Why.
• Loving Unconditionally is the Hardest Work We’ll Ever Do
• Why We Avoid Setting Boundaries
• The Kiss of Death for Your Marriage: The Need to be Right
• Why People in Healthcare Struggle in Their Marriages
• Some of the Most Successful People You Know Have Relationship Struggles
• Why Bother Trying?
• Your Relationship Prep for the New Year
• Sharing Some Gifts with You
• Someone Has to Take the Lead
• The Difference between Loving Someone & Using Them…
• What Will Happen If I Let It Go?
• The Danger of Our Expectations. A Very Personal Story.
• The Mature Marriage: Five Signs Your Marriage is in Trouble
• What if No One has to be Wrong?
• Judgement Doesn’t Help
• Challenging the Inevitable Truth
• Support Groups Seem Like a Perfectly Logical Idea…
• Begging for Affection
• The Tornado of the Type A Woman
• The Guardian of His Solitude
• I Don’t Miss Him Because…
• Protecting Your Heart
• How Did We Go from Hope to Hate?
• I Didn’t Go Looking for an Affair
• When We Betray Ourselves
• The Power in Making a Decision
• When You Take Responsibility, You Have the Ability to Respond
• The Four Stages of Marriage
• Some Practical Relationship Advice
• Let’s Talk Love & Bondage…
• Two Years in Therapy and $6500 Later…
• Divorce and Our Emotions
• Comfortably Unhappy
• How are You Showing Up as a Woman?
• Given What’s Happening, Should Marriage Still Legally be Allowed?
• It’s Not Magic …But It Is Magical
• A Confused Mind Does Nothing
• If I Lean Back, Will He Lean In?
• Maybe Communication Isn’t the Only Answer to Creating Intimacy
• What if I Don’t Want to Save My Marriage?
• How Important is the Health of Your Marriage?
• Would You Stay if Your Husband Cheated? Three Questions to Help You Decide if You Should Stay or Go.
• Will My Marriage Last?
• I’m Not the Problem
• This is What to Do with Drama and Struggle
• There is No Such Thing as Destiny
• When We Withhold Love
• The Mature Marriage: Five Signs of a Marriage in Trouble
• Why We Choose to Cheat Instead of Leave a Bad Marriage
• Indecision Sucks
• Why I Love It When My Coaching Clients Stop Working with Me
• We Belong to Each Other
• Anything We Are Experiencing, We Are Choosing.
• He Doesn’t Get It
• The One Who Broke My Heart
• Having It All Together is Highly Overrated
• 50 Ways We Leave Our Lovers
• Are You Listening? Are You Listening to Yourself?
• What has been Your Biggest Mistake?
• I’ve Read Everything & Nothing’s Changed
• Neither Wanted to Give In… So They Both Gave Up
• Why is Fifty Shades of Grey so Appealing to Mature Women?
• You Have Every Right to Complain…It Just Won’t Serve You
• Can I Afford to Leave My Husband?
• What’s Important to You?
• Connection and Intimacy: Can It be Created?
• Have I Outgrown My Relationship?
• Choosing Peace is a Gift to Yourself
• How We Communicate is a Result of How We Feel
• Communication and Relationships: This Blew My Mind
• What’s Creating the Arguing or the Distance in Relationships?
• Five Reasons Why So Many People File for Divorce in January and When is the Best Time to Divorce?
• Is There Still Hope?
• You’re on the Same Team
• Want More Intimacy? Create Some Separation.
• To Love takes Courage
• Who Will Fix the Relationship?
• There are Two Sides to Every Story…and they’re both right.
• What It’s Like When We Love Someone but are No Longer in Love.
• How to Make a Marriage Thrive
• The Marriage We Have is a Result of Our Thoughts
• The Danger of a Marriage on Auto-Pilot
• Want to Heal Your Relationship? Find Forgiveness.
• Reconnect & Learn Something New about Your Partner
• A Marriage Counseling Drawback
• We Do What We Want to Do. Period.
• My First 100 Clients…and the Ripple Effect.
• Accepting an Apology You Never Receive
• The Missing Piece in Your Decision to Leave Your Marriage
• If I Stay Right Here, Nothing Bad Will Happen
• Seeking Answers for My Marriage…
• Seek This Before Deciding to Leave Your Marriage
• The Secret Wellness Tool that Will Help You Get Through Divorce
• Are the Empty Nest Blues Placing Your Marriage at Risk?
• Conventional Wisdom Doesn’t Work in Our Relationships
• Why Do So Many Second and Third Marriages End?
• Does He Have Something to Hide
• The 10 Minute Marriage Fix
• Your Relationship Scorecard
• Are You the Weakest Link in Your Relationship?
• What a Shame.
• Other People Don’t Belong in Your Marriage
• I Wish He Would
• Marriage Vows and Divorce: Is Till Death Do Us Part Still Relevant?
• Your Hurt. Your Pain. Your Anger.
• Enough Distracting from Your Disconnected Marriage. Plus an Invitation for You.
• Thirty Phrases that can Save a Troubled Marriage
• How Did My Marriage Get So Bad?
• Owning My Part: How I Found Success in the Failure of My Marriage
• How to Have a Drama-Free Breakup
• The Hidden Toll of an Unhealthy Marriage
• I WANT TO GIVE YOU ALL 5 OF MY BOOKS FOR FREE.
• Why Your Relationships (Even the Bad Ones) Lead to Spiritual Growth
• How to Admit Your Role in a Failed Relationship (without Blaming Yourself)
• What to Do when Your Relationship with a Narcissist (Inevitably) Falls Apart
• When Temporary Separation from Your Partner is a Good Thing
• I Stayed in the Wrong Marriage for 11 Years
• What I Know about Love from Being in the Wrong Marriage
• Four Reasons Why I Make No Apologies for My Price
• Stop Engaging in “The Crazy.”
• How Is This Possible In Coaching?
• Too Little. Too Late.
• 90% of You Will Not Attempt to Solve the Problem and More than 50% of You will Divorce.
• Is He on Good Behavior or Is This Lasting Change?
• What if Your Relationship is Complete?
• How Do I Tell My Husband I’m Unhappy?
• You Have 3 Options When Your Marriage is Falling Apart
• You’ve Changed…
• Is This the Kind of Marriage You Hope Your Daughter has One Day?
• 10 Quotes for Understanding Why Some Marriages Struggle
• It’s Not (Only) About the Affair
• The Problem with Staying for the Kids
• The Disconnected Marriage
• Love Him, but Not in Love with Him
• Just Because He Lied or Cheated Doesn’t Make Him a Narcissist
• An Abandoned Home. A Disconnected Marriage.
• Compare and Despair
• The Pain in Relationships is Circular
• When Your Ex is Ruining Your Life
• Your Husband Left. It Didn’t Happen Overnight.
• Why is Connecting with My Husband so Difficult?
• My Life Needed to be Blown-Up
• 5 Steps to Not Repeating Your Relationship Mistakes
• How Life Coaches are Like Personal Trainers.
• What are You Allowing in Your Relationship?
• The Most Important Thing a Man Wants
• What I Learned from Jim Masters & How It Relates to Our Relationships
• The Single Biggest Relationship Mistake that We ALL Make
• My Affair is Over. Now What?
• I’ve Tried Everything and Nothing is Working
• We’re Missing an Intimate Connection. Here’s Why…
• There are No Guarantees in Love
• Can I Have the Life I Want with My Husband?
• My Biggest Beef with the Self-Help Industry
• Three Reasons Why Asking Your Spouse to Go to Marriage Counseling with You Rarely Works
• Your Lawyer Isn’t Your Relationship Coach
• Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places
• Does It Take Two People to Fix a Marriage?
• The Loveless Marriage
• How to Heal After an Affair
• I Have No Reason to Leave
• I Can’t Leave My Marriage and I Can’t Stop My Affair
• The Opposite of Love Isn’t Hate. It’s Indifference.
• There is No Relationships Class. No One Teaches Us How to Do This
• We Have Grown Apart. Here’s What to Do…
• A Little Distraction Goes a Long Way
• I’m so Selfish
• Why Can’t He Stop Cheating? And Why Can’t I Walk Away? Here are the Options.
• Have Someone in Your Family that’s Hard to Love? Try This.
• January is Considered Divorce Month for a Reason
• His Affair. Her Heartbreak. Rinse and Repeat.
• What I’m Learning from Coaching Men
• The Facebook Affair
• The Paradox of Loneliness
• I Should Be Grateful
• Is My Marriage in Trouble?
• If You Leave Your Marriage, You Take Yourself with You
• A Cry for Help: When Your Marriage is in Trouble, the Distance Grows Wider and You get Rebellious
• On Some Level, We Knew the Truth
• The Magic Pill for My Marriage
• Can a Troubled Marriage be Saved?
• Will He Ever Change?
• The REAL Story about My First Marriage and Why It Ended
• The Safe Marriage
• The Single Worst Piece of Advice I’ve Ever Heard from a Therapist
• Soften Up, Baby
• The Good in Goodbye
• What if There’s Never Any Closure?
• The Battle between the Heart and Mind
• What if I’m Alone Forever?
• Heal from a Relationship with a Narcissist & Never Allow that into Your Heart Again
• Hitting Rock Bottom in Your Relationship.
• Why Isn’t This Enough?
• I Love Him, but I’m Not in Love with Him
• If I’m so Smart, Why Can’t I Fix My Marriage?
• When the Arguing Ends and You’re Left with a Grudging Tolerance
• Your Sexless Marriage
• My Single Biggest Piece of Advice for Men
• Where does Marriage Counseling Fail Us?
• What if Cheating Isn’t Wrong?
• Relationships Drift. Marriages End. Hearts Break Open.
• Life Outside Your Safe Zone
• Reconciling Divorce and Marriage Vows
• It’s Easier to Walk Away from Marriage in Anger and Hurt
• Are You Glad You Made the Decision to Leave Your Marriage?
• You Can Trust Yourself Again
• Seeing through the Eyes of Love
• Emotional Abuse is Still Abuse
• Valentine’s Day when Your Marriage is a Mess
• The Inevitability of Change in Relationships
• That’s His Story
• Why Can’t I Get Over Him? Here’s 3 Reasons.
• Why We Stay – Even When It Hurts
• Being Intentional about the Energy You Allow
• Why I’m Not a Fan of Affirmations
• What’s Whispering to You Right Now?
• The Support of Girlfriends
• Can We Save this Marriage?
• Staying Stuck in the Questions
• Love is My Religion
• Fear and Calm can Co-Exist
• Permission to Evolve
• The Inseparability of Truth and Love
• Someday I Will
• Limitless
• Maybe Am I in the Wrong Marriage is the Wrong Question.
• The Three “F” Words in Your Relationship
• Love is Durable. Trust is Fragile. Respect is Crucial.
• Stuck in Indecision
• A Whole New Way to Think About Self-Love
• Nothing to Lose and Only Love to Gain
• No Mud. No Lotus.
• If It Feels Good, Do It.
• How We Love
• Soulful Spirituality & Your Relationships
• Do You Want Love or Do You Just Want to Want It?
• Here’s the Truth: It’s Time to Ask a Better Question
• Fear or Love: Part 2
• Fear or Love: Those are Our Options and We Get to Choose
• What’s Your Story? Is it Keeping You Stuck?
• Forgive Yourself
• The Lesson We Most Need to Learn
• Why We Attract People Who Need Saving
• The Negative Emotions You Resist will Only Persist
• Prepare for Love to Come Flooding In
• Cheating and Trusting Your Instincts
• How Your Soul Says “Yes!”
• Our Happiness: Our Job
• Love by July
• Making Room for Love
• What if You were Already Alone?
• The Sacred Difference Between Action & Inspired Action
• The Path out of Emotional Abuse is through the Door of Self Love
• When the Answer is No
• Permission Slips
• The Justification for Joy
• Together & Alone
• Love with Your Eyes Wide Open
• The Most Important Step in Finding Love
• Everything You Want in Love is Waiting for You
• Our Closest Relationships are Our Greatest Spiritual Teachers
• Relationship Patterns & Soulful Truth Telling
• Your Vision for Finding Love
• I Should Be Grateful
• The Reason Why He Left
• Why I Hate the Label Mid-Life Crisis
• Acts of Courage for Your Soul
• The Awakening
• In Love with Love
• Get Comfortable with Getting Uncomfortable
• Life Will Never be the Same
• 3 Ways to Stay Stuck
• Breakups Force Us to Choose Between Anger and Peace
• How I Lost Myself and Found My Fire
• There’s Nothing to Prove
• Should I Stay or Should I Go?
• Breakups are a Gift
• Living in the Light
• The Breakthrough after a Breakup
• 3 Things My Husband has Taught Me about Love
• It’s the Crazy Crap that Makes Me Laugh and Love Them Even More
• 5 Powerful Lessons about Healing a Broken Heart
• Our Truth Leads Us to Freedom
• Identifying What You Really Want
• The Subtle Difference between Effort and Force
• The Gift of Presence
• One Simple Way to Let Go of Perfectionism
• Releasing Myself from the Prison of Negativity
• If I Only Knew Then What I Know Now
• We Attract What We Are
• My Peace is My Responsibility
• What My 13-Year Old Niece Taught This Life Coach about Beauty
• Little White Lies
• The Certainty of Uncertainty and the Promise of Possibility
• Living Courageously
• Permission to be Happy
• Powerful and Peaceful
• Authenticity & an Aspiring Life Coach
• Your Spring Will Come
• Our Path to Freedom
• The Struggle We Don’t Discuss
• Three Things I’ve Learned from Telling my Story