“Hope never abandons you, you abandon it.” George Weinberg
My new clients, who I’ll refer to as Andrea and Gary had been together for 14 years, both on their second marriages. Theirs had not been an easy relationship, with many arguments and the complexities that come with attempting to blend families together. He could be a bit too volatile and she could be a bit too passive.
But with each angry outburst, she took a step away from him emotionally.
When he would reject her advances, she stepped further away from him.
Every time he would choose work ...continue reading...
When faced with major life decisions, it’s natural to take time to ensure the right one is made. Weighing the pros and cons, making lists, asking other’s opinions, doing extensive research, reading online reviews – all part of the process.
But what do we do when we’re struggling with the life-changing decision of whether or not to leave our marriages?
This decision isn’t made with research and reviews. This one involves your heart more than your head. To make matters even more complicated, it also involves not only your future, but the future and the happiness of others – ...continue reading...
“Lasting change happens when people see for themselves that a different way of life is more fulfilling than their present one.” Eknath Easwaran
My client, Margie, has been married for 32 years to Chuck, whom she met in college. She put her life on hold for more than 2 decades, pouring all her love and energy into raising her two boys and being a teacher. But now she’s ready to make herself a priority – to begin to live again, to travel, to have experiences that bring her joy and meaningful connections in her relationships. She’s ready to ...continue reading...
“The details of what you’re fighting over are negligible compared to your innermost experience begging to be heard.” Sevin Philips, MFT
Many of my clients who are struggling in their marriages attend marriage counseling with their husbands, in addition to working with me. They share with me the context of their conversations and progress (or lack thereof) as a result of those sessions. And I fear that through those conversations, we’re not getting to the heart of the matter.
It’s time to take the conversation much deeper.
My client Abbey goes marriage counseling with her husband twice each week, ...continue reading...