“The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference. The opposite of art is not ugliness, it’s indifference. The opposite of faith is not heresy, it’s indifference. And the opposite of life is not death, it’s indifference.” Elie Wiesel
Yes, if you’re arguing constantly with your spouse, clearly the marriage is breaking down and becoming increasingly uncomfortable. But at least when you’re arguing with one another, you’re still trying….you’re still in the ring.
…You’re mostly caught in the chain of pain trying to get the other person to change…but you’re still trying to make it work, maybe in ...continue reading...
“A grudging tolerance of thoughts and feelings is better than an outright struggle, but it leaves you feeling stuck and somewhat helpless. It’s a sense more of resignation than of acceptance, of entrapment rather than freedom, of being stuck rather than moving forward.” Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap
“This is me. This is my marriage. Grudging tolerance….and stuck.”
My client, who I’ll refer to as Susan, sent me those words in a text.
The weight of her message hit me square in the heart.
Susan and her husband used to fight.
They had brutal fights.
He didn’t like it when ...continue reading...
My husband has become indifferent. I am trying to figure out what I can or can not do while he is like this.
Martha – What I can tell you FOR SURE is that if you do nothing different, nothing will change…and it will likely only get worse. Keep doiing same things…keep getting same results…what are you willing to try? to do differently in an effort to bridge the distance between you?