Your Husband Left. It Didn’t Happen Overnight.

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Your Husband Left. It Didn’t Happen Overnight.

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Your Husband Left. It Didn’t Happen Overnight.

If you husband left, or threatened to leave, this post was written especially for you.

“When you come out of the storm you won’t be the same person that walked in. That’s what the storm is all about.” Haruki Murakami


Kaye’s husband, James, had just made a pot of coffee and was standing over the breakfast bar drinking it, looking as though he was a million miles away. He was in his business casual attire that Friday morning, ready to head out to the office. Kaye comes into the kitchen, pours herself a cup and as she’s adding ...continue reading...

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We Have Grown Apart. Here’s What to Do…

“When you turn your back, you’ve lost her.” Estee Lauder


You’ve stopped sharing your hopes and dreams, passions and desires with each other.

Your conversations are ruled by all the logistics for the kids.

You haven’t looked in each other’s eyes in forever…and you’re not sure you really want to anymore. It feels awkward….foreign, almost….

This is what it looks like when you’ve grown apart.

No one wakes up one day and realized that overnight they have grown apart from their partner; it happens slowly over time. It goes virtually unnoticed until the distance feels wide enough that ...continue reading...

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  1. Every relationship goes through this phase. You stat feeling indifferent towards your partner.This happens in friendship and relationships. In such situation it is better to tell the truth to your partner and avoid the falseness in love. When relationship start fading and you have no same interest. A harsh truth about relations, sometimes you feel it’s love but it is not and that’s the time when you start growing apart.

    by amol joshi on March 1st, 2018 at 6:30 am
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When the Arguing Ends and You’re Left with a Grudging Tolerance

 “A grudging tolerance of thoughts and feelings is better than an outright struggle, but it leaves you feeling stuck and somewhat helpless. It’s a sense more of resignation than of acceptance, of entrapment rather than freedom, of being stuck rather than moving forward.”  Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap


“This is me. This is my marriage. Grudging tolerance….and stuck.”

My client, who I’ll refer to as Susan, sent me those words in a text.

The weight of her message hit me square in the heart.

Susan and her husband used to fight.

They had brutal fights.

He didn’t like it when ...continue reading...

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