“A life lived without forgiveness is a life lived in the past.” Asa Don Brown
Sometimes in relationships we hurt one another.
When people hurt us intentionally, it’s because they’re hurting themselves. It’s only ever hurting people who intentionally hurt other people.
But mostly when other people hurt us, it’s unintentional and it’s because they didn’t really know how to do it differently and well, they screwed-up.
Sometimes when other people hurt us, they can take responsibility for what they did and apologize for doing the hurt caused. But let’s be honest…most people cannot do that…
They can’t ...continue reading...
“Just because your relationship wasn’t forever, doesn’t mean it was a mistake. It means it was an important chapter in the long story of your life.” Sharon Pope, Soulful Truth Telling: Am I in the Wrong Marriage?
When we’re struggling in a relationship or nursing the wounds from a painful breakup, there are three words that can keep us stuck or propel us forward. We can choose to use them as a stick to beat ourselves up with or we can see them through a softer, more compassionate lens and use them to help us evolve into a better ...continue reading...
“Once you know better, you do better.” Dr. Maya Angelou
Once you begin to explore why some past painful relationships didn’t last, you may be able to see the role you had in contributing to the creation of that experience:
Maybe you overlooked something you shouldn’t have.
Maybe you tried to convince yourself you could make the unworkable work.
Maybe you stayed too long in a relationship out of fear of being alone.
Maybe you put your partner’s happiness before your own.
Maybe you stayed for the children.
But you did those things because you wanted love. You wanted ...continue reading...
“Love isn’t something you find. Love is something that finds you.” Loretta Young
Have you been searching everywhere for love?
Have you ever wanted love so much that you convinced yourself that okay was enough?
Have you ever tried too hard to make an unworkable relationship work?
When it comes to love, have you ever felt like you were swimming upstream?
I spent most of my life swimming upstream.
I made everything much more difficult than it needed to be. If there was a challenge to be had, I seemed to be in the thick of it. ...continue reading...
“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
I am a student; a continual learner. For me, the journey of growth and evolution has no finish line.
I seek out those that are the best in their respective areas of expertise and hire them to teach me.
I pay attention to the spiritual teachers that inspire me and challenge me to think about my journey and my work in a new way, such as: Elizabeth Gilbert, Rob Bell, Elizabeth Lesser, Marianne Williamson, Byron Katie & Esther ...continue reading...
“Courage is the power of letting go of the familiar.” Raymond Lindquist
My husband and I are taking salsa lessons. We’re only on our 4th lesson, but this week my husband asked the very honest question, “Will it always feel this uncomfortable?” To which our very wise dance instructor responded, “If you’re not uncomfortable, then you’re not growing.”
As a life coach, it took me one nano-second to think to myself: That’s not just true in dancing; that’s true in virtually every aspect of our lives.
I recently decided to search for a new spiritual practice outside of the ...continue reading...
“Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift.” Mary Oliver
When hearts are broken, it hurts. I’ve lost jobs. I’ve lost friendships. I’ve lost my footing, but nothing kicked me in the stomach and opened me up the way a broken heart did.I know what it’s like to get your heart broken. I know what it’s like to not quite know where your broken heart ends and your own brokenness begins. I know what it feels like to want an unworkable relationship to ...continue reading...
“God pulls us through life by the heart.” Martha Beck
As I’ve been building my life coaching practice, I’ve become very clear on who it is I want to serve. The truth is that the people I can help the most are people who are going through something in their lives that I’ve also experienced and come through myself.
That’s why I have a special place in my heart for people who are healing a broken heart.
I have had my heart broken and I have broken hearts – both experiences sucked (quite frankly!). I got emotionally lost for a bit, ...continue reading...
“Life is brief, but if you’re brave, it’s deep.” Elissa Schappell
“Oh if I only knew then what I know now!” How many of us have said THAT before?
I led a life coaching workshop this past weekend, where women were asked to bring in a photograph of themselves when they were children, paste it into their journals and then write down the gentle whispers you would say to that young girl now – knowing what you know today.
I wanted to play along too and my whispers to my 10-year old self would be something like this:Be ...continue reading...
“Do you have the courage to stand inside yourself and be who you really are?” Oprah Winfrey
I had the absolute pleasure of being able to train this week with the best life coaches in the world, including arguably the most successful life coach there is – Martha Beck. I was inspired and challenged, encouraged and motivated. I gained insight from life coaches that have been helping people live out loud for more than 10 years. It was, in a word: amazing.
One of my takeaways from the training was the reminder that it’s important as coaches that we ...continue reading...