“Your next relationship will be different because you are different.” Sharon Pope, Soulful Truth Telling: Disbelieving the Lies that Keep Us from the Love We Desire
Many women find me when their marriage is ending, because it’s such a difficult and at times, heart-wrenching experience because they need support to move through what’s kept them in pain and stuck in fear. And all of my clients are in their 40s and 50s and have been out of the dating scene for quite a while.
For some women, when a marriage ends, the last thing they’re thinking about is ...continue reading...
“Everything you want lies on the other side of learning to trust yourself.” Vironika Tugaleva
One of the things that will keep women stuck in solitude after a divorce, I’ve found, is a fear that they will again make the wrong choice or another mistake in who to love. They don’t yet trust their instincts (or they don’t trust men, which is just another flavor of not trusting yourself that you’ll be able to decipher the good ones from the bad).
Peg was a new client who was ready to dive in deep after her failed relationship so ...continue reading...
“Telling someone the truth is a loving act.” Mal Pancoast
Cathy is a strong, confident, and independent woman. She doesn’t need a man in her life; but she wants a man in her life. After her divorce 15 years ago, she raised her two sons as a single mom and became a successful business woman. She has a wide circle of friends, is funny, likes to travel and enjoys her life.
But Cathy had convinced herself that “The men she wanted, didn’t want her,” and “The men that wanted her, she didn’t want.”
Over the years, there had been ...continue reading...
“This self-love you think you’re looking for is not love of self, it’s love that is self. And there’s a difference.” Abraham Hicks
This week, I spoke to several women – spread out all over the country – who are struggling with the concept of self-love.
They know they need more confidence and courage in order to live the adventurous lives they desire.
They know they need to be more gentle and compassionate with themselves so they can stop the self-sabotage.
They know they need self-love in order to find the deep, soulful, lasting love they desire in ...continue reading...
“If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading.” Lao Tzu
Do you want to find a deep, soulful, lasting love?
Do you want to heal from a painful breakup?
Do you need more clarity about your current relationship?
This is the work I do; this is all I do. And I’m fortunate enough to be able to serve in a way that aligns with my soul.
Each month, I only take on 4 new clients to work with me individually. And I have come to a place in my practice where I ...continue reading...
“The Universe isn’t invested in giving us what we want. It’s invested in teaching us how to love.” Marianne Williamson
We may not be able to choose who we fall in love with, but we most certainly get to choose how we love.
We can love with fire or with fear.
We can love with peace or with passion.
We can love with honesty and openness or with doubt and hesitation.
We can even choose to love with our hearts or our minds. One leads us to deep intimacy, the other leads to pragmatic numbness.
We get to ...continue reading...
“Sometimes it’s the pain of love that transforms you into someone who has the courage to take it on.” Marianne Williamson, The Age of Miracles
Do you want love, or do you just want to want it? There’s a difference.
Do you want to heal from your breakup or do you just want to want to heal from your breakup because the sadness is too painful to sit in? There’s a difference.
Do you want make your future different than your past or do you just want to want it to be that way? Different, without really knowing ...continue reading...
“When people show you who they are, believe them.” Dr. Maya Angelou
We’ve all been there before:
This time will be different. He said he would change.
I can love him enough that eventually he’ll change his mind.
He just needs a little more time.
Those of us who are generous and visionary often see the potential in people, rather than the reality.
Those of us who have a lot of love to give think we can love someone through anything and even inspire them to do something different than what they’ve always done.
Those of us ...continue reading...
“Love isn’t something you find. Love is something that finds you.” Loretta Young
Have you been searching everywhere for love?
Have you ever wanted love so much that you convinced yourself that okay was enough?
Have you ever tried too hard to make an unworkable relationship work?
When it comes to love, have you ever felt like you were swimming upstream?
I spent most of my life swimming upstream.
I made everything much more difficult than it needed to be. If there was a challenge to be had, I seemed to be in the thick of it. ...continue reading...
“Stay open to whoever and whatever comes along. When you least expect it, life can take your breath away.” Unknown
You know that one friend?
That friend you have that’s more than a best friend and maybe even more than family?
It’s that soul sister that you can go weeks without seeing, but when you get back together, it’s like no time at all has passed? Yea, that one.
I have a friend like that.
And every time we get together, we greet each other with a big hug and always, always a peaceful smile and good, long ...continue reading...