His Affair. Her Heartbreak. Rinse and Repeat.

“No woman can love a cheater and not pay the price for it.” Rose Wynters

It didn’t happen just once. It wasn’t a lapse in judgement or a one-night stand.

It wasn’t just one woman. There were many throughout their 24 years together.

It wasn’t just one lie. It was lies, upon lies, upon lies.

He would have an affair. She would find out about it and be heartbroken.

He would break it off, apologize and promise it would never happen again. She would forgive him, hope for the best and look the other way.

Rinse. Repeat.

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“…just as darkness is nothing but the absence of light, so fear is nothing but the absence of love.” Marianne Williamson

Alena had been divorced over a year. Everyone told her the first year is the hardest, so why hadn’t the pain of losing her 24 year marriage dissipated by now?

Their marriage wasn’t good. He was verbally and emotionally abusive to her throughout the last 10 years.

And although intellectually she knows she’s better off now without that abuse, she can’t seem to make her heart understand. She misses him, misses having a partner in her life ...continue reading...

“Don’t be afraid of the answers, be afraid of not asking the questions.” Jennifer Hudson

Katherine has been married for 27 years. Her kids are grown, out of the house and having children of their own. She’s successful in her career and has a wide circle of friends. She has to beg her husband to be intimate with her. She shared with me that she’s never felt desired or beautiful and she’s lonelier than ever before.

And now the question that’s screaming in Katherine’s ear every day is whether she should stay in her marriage and try to make it ...continue reading...

“If you don’t hold the fear lovingly, it will follow you.” Martha Beck

A few weeks ago, I wrapped up my Master Coach training with Martha Beck. The opportunity to be coached by Martha over several days on her ranch was an experience that will remain with me for a long, long time.

For those of you that don’t know her, she’s been a Life Coach since before there was any such thing as a Life Coach, authored several best-selling books and has been writing a featured column in O Magazine for decades.

But the thing that is so ...continue reading...

“Telling someone the truth is a loving act.” Mal Pancoast

Cathy is a strong, confident, and independent woman. She doesn’t need a man in her life; but she wants a man in her life. After her divorce 15 years ago, she raised her two sons as a single mom and became a successful business woman. She has a wide circle of friends, is funny, likes to travel and enjoys her life.

But Cathy had convinced herself that “The men she wanted, didn’t want her,” and “The men that wanted her, she didn’t want.”

Over the years, there had been ...continue reading...

“The Universe isn’t invested in giving us what we want. It’s invested in teaching us how to love.” Marianne Williamson

We may not be able to choose who we fall in love with, but we most certainly get to choose how we love.

We can love with fire or with fear.

We can love with peace or with passion.

We can love with honesty and openness or with doubt and hesitation.

We can even choose to love with our hearts or our minds. One leads us to deep intimacy, the other leads to pragmatic numbness.

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“Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here.” Marianne Williamson

I speak to women every day that tell me what they want in their love lives: a lasting, secure and passionate love.

I also speak to women who tell me what they don’t want: they want out of the pain, they want to become unstuck, they don’t want to keep attracting the same people and making the same mistakes.

But because we’re so accustomed to walking the path of fear first in our lives (play it safe, there’s not enough good men out there, ...continue reading...