“It can be difficult, if not impossible, for many divorced people to ever rest in a state of pure grief, pure anger, or pure relief when it comes to feelings about one’s ex-spouse. Instead, the emotions often remain mixed-up together in an uncomfortably raw stew of contradictions for many years.” Elizabeth Gilbert
In almost every divorce, there is always one person that is asking for the divorce and one that is not. Although no one – not even the person seeking the change – gets out of divorce free from hurt, often times the one that is left ...continue reading...
“Love was a leap into the unknown, not a cautious dipping of the toe.” Martina Boone
The word courage has a Latin root, cor, which means heart. The heart has long been a metaphor used to depict inner strength. And I’m not sure if there’s anything that requires more courage and inner strength these days than to love.
To open your heart to someone, knowing that it might get broken.
To share your deepest needs and desires, not knowing if they will be met.
To love, even when that act of love may not be reciprocated, at least ...continue reading...
“Telling someone the truth is a loving act.” Mal Pancoast
Cathy is a strong, confident, and independent woman. She doesn’t need a man in her life; but she wants a man in her life. After her divorce 15 years ago, she raised her two sons as a single mom and became a successful business woman. She has a wide circle of friends, is funny, likes to travel and enjoys her life.
But Cathy had convinced herself that “The men she wanted, didn’t want her,” and “The men that wanted her, she didn’t want.”
Over the years, there had been ...continue reading...
“Negative emotions like loneliness, envy, and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; they’re big, flashing signs that something needs to change.” Gretchen Rubin Last Saturday, my client Leslie found herself feeling incredibly sad about a past relationship with a man she loved very much. Historically when she would feel that way, she would judge those emotions of sadness and push them aside:
“Why am I still grieving this?”
“I should be past this by now.”
This time, however, she gave herself permission to stay with the sadness and just allow it be ...continue reading...
“The sweeter you are to yourself, the sweeter you will be to the world.” Sharon Pope
A few months ago, I read a life coaching inquiry by someone named Amy that said, “I’ve tried yoga, but I found myself crying at the end of each yoga practice, so I don’t want to do that anymore.” When you get in touch with your breath – the way you do in yoga, the way a singer loosens up their vocal cords, the way dancers or actors do before going on stage – you cannot hide your emotions. Breathing brings all of ...continue reading...