Choosing Peace is a Gift to Yourself

“Inner peace begins the moment you choose to not allow another person or event to control your emotions.” Pema Chödrön

Here’s something you may not know about me: I am horrible at arguing.

I used to be good at it. I used to grab the biting and hurtful comments with ease. I used to use sarcasm as a passive-aggressive way to get my point across.

But I’ve grown up since then and now I am far more interested in keeping my peace than I am in winning an argument.

So when someone comes at me with lots of ...continue reading...

“The way I see it, our natural human instinct is to fight or flee that which we perceive to be dangerous. Although this mechanism evolved to protect us, it serves as the single greatest limiting process to our growth.” Charles F. Glassman

Some couples argue when they’re not getting along, allowing anger to take over. Some create more distance in relationships to avoid dealing with the problems that exist. There’s actually a biological reason why this is happening.

There is a part of each of our brains – scientists refer to it as the reptilian brain – where the ...continue reading...

We all have pain in relationships. And many times, the arguments that result from that pain are circular.

“I have found the paradox that if you love until it hurts there can be no more hurt, only more love.” Mother Theresa

Let me see if I can do this story justice….

Renee and Pete love one another; truly. And they both sincerely want to make their relationship work.

Some days she can’t imagine ever spending her life with anyone else. There is great chemistry. There is a comfort between them. She says she’s never loved anyone the way ...continue reading...