Choosing Peace is a Gift to Yourself

If You Keep Doing the Same Thing, You Should Expect the Same Result.

Choosing Peace is a Gift to Yourself

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Choosing Peace is a Gift to Yourself

“Inner peace begins the moment you choose to not allow another person or event to control your emotions.” Pema Chödrön

 

Here’s something you may not know about me: I am horrible at arguing.

I used to be good at it. I used to grab the biting and hurtful comments with ease. I used to use sarcasm as a passive-aggressive way to get my point across.

But I’ve grown up since then and now I am far more interested in keeping my peace than I am in winning an argument.

So when someone comes at me with lots of ...continue reading...

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What’s Creating the Arguing or the Distance in Relationships?

“The way I see it, our natural human instinct is to fight or flee that which we perceive to be dangerous. Although this mechanism evolved to protect us, it serves as the single greatest limiting process to our growth.” Charles F. Glassman

Some couples argue when they’re not getting along, allowing anger to take over. Some create more distance in relationships to avoid dealing with the problems that exist. There’s actually a biological reason why this is happening.

There is a part of each of our brains – scientists refer to it as the reptilian brain – where the ...continue reading...

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The Pain in Relationships is Circular

We all have pain in relationships. And many times, the arguments that result from that pain are circular.

“I have found the paradox that if you love until it hurts there can be no more hurt, only more love.” Mother Theresa

 

Let me see if I can do this story justice….

Renee and Pete love one another; truly. And they both sincerely want to make their relationship work.

Some days she can’t imagine ever spending her life with anyone else. There is great chemistry. There is a comfort between them. She says she’s never loved anyone the way ...continue reading...

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  1. Hi Sharon. I really enjoy your articles. I have a problem. I’ve been with my husband for 30 years. I seemed to have lost all attraction to him. Does this mean I fell out of love with him and should divorce him?
    Christine.

    by Christine on May 25th, 2017 at 6:33 pm
  2. Hi Christine – I’m so sorry you’re feeling that way. It doesn’t necessarily mean you have to leave your marriage, but it does mean you need to do somthing different – otherwise you will continue to get the same results.This isn’t your fault; no one taught us how to do this – how to create and sustain lasting, loving, connected relationships. Here’s the link to my online application if you’re interested in exploring making the necessary changes to know whether the marriage can feel good again or if it’s time to leave: http://www.sharonpopetruth.com/truth-clarity-session
    Sending you much love nad light – Sharon

    by Sharon Pope on May 25th, 2017 at 7:54 pm
  3. Very useful and insightful. Good reminder for us to do the hard work inside and break the pattern.

    by Laura Kinoshita on May 26th, 2017 at 1:26 pm
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