“Waiting hurts. Forgetting hurts. But not knowing which decision to take can sometimes be the most painful.” Paulo Coelho
The thought of staying feels hopeless, but the thought of leaving and breaking up my family is terrifying.
I’ve heard this in various ways probably hundreds of times over the years of doing this relationship work. And every time I hear a woman speak those words to me, I can feel the amount of pain she’s enduring. It’s a place of genuine confusion. It’s the place of feeling stuck and lost. Confusion and indecision feel horrible.
In business, confusion ...continue reading...
“It is not only what we do, but also what we do not do, for which we are accountable.” John Baptiste Molière
There’s a very clear reason why people hire personal trainers.
It’s not because they need someone to show them how to hop on a treadmill or how to lift a weight. They could do that on their own.
People invest in a personal trainer primarily for the accountability a trainer provides, as well as how a trainer pushes them beyond where they might go if they were working on their own.
I had a woman reach ...continue reading...
“You cannot have a happy ending to an unhappy journey.” Abraham-Hicks
Yesterday I was interviewed by Jim Masters, a successful TV and Radio Personality and Host of CUTV News and we talked about the only way to create real change in troubled relationships.
The 30 minute interview went quickly and the conversation was fun and easy. But my insight came after the interview was over and we were just talking.
He was telling me about a conversation he was having with a friend who had achieved a great deal of success in life by almost anyone’s standards; it ...continue reading...
“I used to feel that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. IT’S NOT. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone.” Robin Williams
We say “I do.”
We settle in as married couple.
We may even plan for children.
We carry the assumption that feeling alone is now a thing of the past. After all, we have someone by our side now “until death do us part.”
So what happens when that relationship feels empty?
What happens when you’re not technically alone, but you’ve never ...continue reading...
“Your next relationship will be different because you are different.” Sharon Pope, Soulful Truth Telling: Disbelieving the Lies that Keep Us from the Love We Desire
Many women find me when their marriage is ending, because it’s such a difficult and at times, heart-wrenching experience because they need support to move through what’s kept them in pain and stuck in fear. And all of my clients are in their 40s and 50s and have been out of the dating scene for quite a while.
For some women, when a marriage ends, the last thing they’re thinking about is ...continue reading...
“Some people are going to leave, but that’s not the end of your story. That’s the end of their part in your story.” Unknown
Jeanne had 3 young children and a successful career in Sales. She worked hard in her job, she took care of the family, the home, paid all the bills, did all the laundry, cooked all the meals and was exhausted at the end of each day.
Jeanne had also been living in a loveless marriage to her husband Nick for more than a decade. Towards the end of their marriage, she couldn’t remember the last ...continue reading...
“The trouble is not really in being alone, it’s being lonely.” Christine Feehan
I was almost ten years into my first marriage when I realized that even though I had a husband that loved me, family and plenty of friends, I still felt isolated and very alone.
Throughout the last week, I’ve spoken to several women with similar experiences.
We’re not alone; we’re never really alone in these experiences that we don’t talk much about to one another.
Camille married her husband out of fear and knew from the beginning that there was no soulful connection between them. But ...continue reading...
