My Single Biggest Piece of Advice for Men

“Connection is why we’re here. We are hardwired to connect with others, it’s what gives purpose and meaning to our lives, and without it there is suffering.” Brené Brown

 

I speak with women in difficult marriages and painful relationships every day.  And there is one consistent theme at the bottom of what seems like literally every relationship that’s falling apart.

This thing that’s missing is something that the women long for, but don’t know how to get.

In many occasions, it’s something they’ve never had, but somehow know it’s possible.

They have gotten to a stage in their lives where they’re just not willing to live without it.

And because it’s so pervasive, it’s shocking to me that men don’t know what that one thing is that’s missing in their relationship that makes all the difference.

It’s CONNECTION.

Connection is having a deep, soulful, intimate connection with your partner.

Connection is allowing yourself to be seen – even the things you don’t let others see. Open. Vulnerable. Imperfect and alive.

Connection is about sharing a piece of your heart with another soul.

It’s being genuinely curious about your partner, without judgement.

It’s having someone by your side and someone in your corner; and you in theirs.

We were created by love and connection. We were created for love and connection. And to love and connect with each other is all we’re here to do.

If we were meant to do this thing called life alone, we’d be here by ourselves.

And when we’re not connected to one another, life is a pretty lonely place.

So if I had only one piece of advice for men it would be to embrace connection with your beloved.

If you’ve lost it, get it back.

If you’ve never had it, cultivate it. Plant the seeds. Water them often.

If you are one of the few men who have already figured this out: BRAVO. It feels pretty good, doesn’t it?

With much love & light –

Sharon

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