Afraid you will be alone forever?
When I ask my clients about their fears for the future when they think of leaving their marriage, many of them say they are afraid they will be alone forever. Sometimes they say “what if don’t find anyone better?” Or “what if I make a mistake and end up by myself?”
Most people end up working with me when their marriage is in trouble and when they don’t know what else to do. Most often they have tried for years and are stuck in pain and fear. Now they need help to walk through the often painful steps of deciding what comes next.
Typically my clients are over 40 and have been married for a while. They have not been out dating for a long, long time. The thought of dating, for many, is just not something many of them even want to think about. Especially since their most recent relationship is not working and they are in pain. When they think about ending their marriage and moving on, the mind starts to do its job and tries to solve the problem for them. This is where I hear, “What if I am alone for the rest of my life?”
Some, of course, feel excited with the possibility of what comes next and they are ready to get back out there. But, usually, if we dig a little deeper, they too, have that thought- “What if I don’t find anyone and I am alone forever?” This is the statement that keeps many of them wondering if there is hope, and fearful that they might make the wrong choice.
Fear is the thing that keeps us from moving forward, but what if you knew that it could be different this time?
What if you knew that you could create a different kind of relationship? One that has all of the qualities you have been searching for. One that has the missing “ingredients” you desire? One where you show up and create all of those things?
Your relationships can be different. Your next relationship can be different. You can create something different.
If you would like to learn how to do that, schedule your complimentary Exploratory Session. Let’s see if we are a good fit to work together.