“You have to stop thinking that you’ll be stuck in your current situation forever…Don’t confuse a season, for a lifetime.” Brittney Moses
I’ve heard several reports recently referencing how the call volume on inquiries into divorce attorneys has increased by anywhere between 50%-70% in the last several weeks.
I have a client who – after a great deal of soul-searching – has made the difficult decision to end her marriage of 30+ years. She began moving through the steps that follow such a realization:
And during that time, their state ordered everyone to stay-at-home for the health and safety during the pandemic. But now she felt stuck. “I’m not able to move forward until this pandemic ends and one of us can leave.”
And she was scared that she would fall back into the same old patterns and another six months would go by and she’d still be in the same place in her marriage that she was six months prior.
As her coach, it’s my job to challenge those thoughts:
You’re stuck. Is that true?
What could you be doing right now to feel like you’re making some progress?
After some exploring, she realized that she wasn’t actually stuck. There was plenty that would need to be done and she could certainly use this time to move some of those projects forward.
My client wasn’t stuck.
Neither are you.
Stuck is a feeling resulting from a choice in the midst of a circumstance, rather than the circumstance itself.
There is always something productive we can do to help ourselves move forward in whatever direction we’re heading.