“… there was a new voice,
which you slowly recognized as your own…
determined to do the only thing you could do – determined to save the only life you could save.”
Mary Oliver, excerpt from The Journey
When I was married to my first husband, I consumed myself in my work.
I was willing to do whatever was necessary to get that next promotion, that next big project or that next job.
I hustled for acceptance and chased power with the big dogs.
I worked super hard, got an MBA and climbed to the top of my profession in corporate marketing – corner office, board room, all that.
I came across as smart, confident, strong.
From the outside, my life looked picture-perfect.
Truth is, I was slowly dying on the inside.
I wouldn’t let anyone get too close to me for fear they would see the truth of my life; they might see the loneliness that had taken up residence in my heart.
I put on a pretty good act for a really long time.
Truth is, I was avoiding being home where I felt empty.
I kept running toward that corner office instead of facing what I was feeling.
When I look back on that time of my life, it begs the questions:
Why was I so successful in my professional life and so completely unsuccessful in my personal life?
If I could work hard and create almost anything I wanted in my career, then why couldn’t I create an intimate, soulful connection with a kind, loving man?
If I was so damn smart, how come I couldn’t fix my marriage?
There are probably a couple different answers to this question:
And maybe it was because my marriage wasn’t supposed to be fixed.
It was supposed to teach me the lessons my soul came here to learn…
to give me the gifts that would help me grow into the woman I came here to be…
and to allow love and love lost to bring me to the point of surrender, so that I can serve in this way as a Love Coach.
Maybe I wasn’t supposed to fix my marriage. Not everything (or everyone) is mine to fix.
Maybe I was supposed to learn from it, grow from it and allow it to open my heart.
Maybe I was supposed to bless it for what it was without trying to beat it into submission.
As a coach, I have the tools to bring strong, confident, smart and lonely women through this forest.
And as a woman I know what you’re feeling. I know what you’re experiencing day-in and day-out.