Should I Stay or Should I Go?

This is a Big Decision with Far Reaching Implications. It Should be Treated Accordingly.

Should I Stay or Should I Go?
Discover How to Gain the Clarity You Need

If you’ve been married for more than ten years, you’ve been through enough together to know that there are good times and difficult times. But what happens when the difficult times far outweigh the good times? What happens when you can’t even recall the good times anymore? And how do you ever get comfortable feeling so lonely inside your marriage that, even though you have someone by your side, there’s no one in your corner?

It doesn’t matter where you’re starting from – married-but-feeling-alone and wondering if this is the end or longing to feel more connected  to your husband and wondering if there’s any way back. You’re still hurting. You’re still experiencing heartache from a painful or disconnected relationship. And you’re still struggling in the most important area of your life – those you share your heart with.

And with every heartache – every disappointment that leaves us feeling alone, unsupported, and unloved yet again – we gather more and more proof to feed the lie that this is all there is, that I should be grateful or maybe what I want isn’t really possible. 

And we stay stuck in our same rut, our same pattern, our same pain.

Getting Un-Stuck

The key to breaking these patterns often comes from the outside (and that’s where I come in, but more on that later.) The simple fact is that you often can’t see past your own experiences, your own beliefs, and your own misconceptions to fully understand how you’re helping to create the patterns that keep you alone.

And once you break these patterns, you can attract the kind of deep, soulful and lasting love that you both desire and deserve.

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Who am I and I and How Do I Know All This?

I was in a marriage for 11 years and while I was in this marriage, I “had it all.” I had the 4 bedroom house in the golf community. I had the handsome husband, the dog, the good corporate job with a cushy 401(k). I had supportive family and friends and from the outside looking in, you might think I had it all.

But I was lonelier that I ever thought possible.

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My husband and I had love for one another, but we were never lovers – I craved an intimate connection that had never really existed between us. I knew he would never lie to me, cheat on me, or hurt me.  I married him because he was safe and secure. He was (and still is) a good, kind man and I never wanted to hurt him. I didn’t know how to go…but I didn’t know how to stay and continue to live like this either.

I felt empty. I felt lonely. I felt guilty. And some days, I felt like I might be losing my mind.

I left my marriage for a man that made me feel passionate and sparked desires I never even knew I had…and one that ultimately left me burned and more alone that ever before.

But I couldn’t go back – I couldn’t return back to that unfeeling, numb, and lonely life that I felt inside my marriage. I didn’t know how to move forward, but I somehow knew there was no going backwards.

So I spent the next 2 years looking for love in all the wrong places – men that were bad for me from the start but that I loved anyway. Men who would never love me back…not the way I wanted. Men who would love me and leave me, men who used me, and men who were so emotionally unavailable that I couldn’t ever crack the code.

After the last heartbreak, I said “enough.” I had hit rock bottom and knew that I had to figure out a different, better way.

ready-for-love-sharon-coupleI got quiet and still. I became comfortable with my own company. I finally began listening to my heart and the whispers in my life.

I stopped trying to make love happen. I began to love myself.

I learned how to allow love into my life and it was only then that I was able to attract and sustain the loving relationship that I have with my amazing husband today, Derrick.

There is a better way. And you don’t have to do what I did. You don’t have to blow up your life and go through years of heartache. You can create a love that feels good to the soul (even if it’s the same relationship you’re in…but a different version of the two of your together).

Love can be intimate, connected, and passionate. It can make you feel more alive that you’ve ever felt before. I can promise you this – because I’ve found it. I’ve created it for myself. I’ve walked this path – through struggling whether or not to end a marriage, through deep heartbreak and through finding the kind of love that I desired. So I not only have the tools you will need, I know the way through this…

And if you’re ready to get the clarity you need so you can stay and re-commit or lovingly release this marriage,
I have developed a program that will help you do exactly that.

The Path Through

Because I wasn’t a life coach when I went through all this myself, I didn’t have all the tools and I didn’t handle it nearly as gracefully as I could have. Your journey doesn’t need to look like mine. My answer is not your answer.

I not only have the tools to help you through this struggle, I know what you’re feeling and experiencing right now.

The good news for you: I know the way through this forest and I have all the tools to knock down every tree that’s in your way. (Hint: We will do in weeks, what it takes others years to do.)

I would wake-up some mornings thinking, I can do this. And there were nights I would fall asleep thinking, I don’t think I can do this One…More…Day. Once I began telling the truth to myself about my role in the creation of my marriage, my answers on how to move forward became clear.

It was only then that I could heal the wounds that had led me through such pain. It was only then that I could have attracted the kind of deep, soulful love that I had been craving. It was only then that I could have met the love of my life, my incredible husband and spiritual partner, Derrick.

I learned the lessons I needed to learn. I forgave myself and everyone else. I made peace with the heartbreak I received at the hands of someone that I loved and hurt me deeply. I took responsibility for my own happiness and stopped needing everyone else to change so I could be more comfortable. And I now have more love in my life that I ever knew was possible.

You can have this too and I can help. 

By the end of my 3-Month Coaching Program:

You will have clarity about your most important relationship and if you’re struggling to know whether you should stay or go; you will have your answer for your life and your heart.

Based upon your answer, you will know how to navigate the steps ahead of you – whether that’s how to stay and re-connect with your partner or lovingly release the relationship in the most peaceful way possible..

You will heal the hurts that have kept you feeling stuck, sad, lost and alone so that you don’t let it continue to infect your current relationship or even carry it into your next relationship as baggage. Either way, you will move forward with confidence and hopefulness.

Let’s see if there’s a fit for us to work together.

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This is a proven 8-step process that I have used successfully with hundreds of women just like you:

STEP ONE: Here are our Milestones- Click to Learn More...

Step One: This is a big step and before we just go diving in, we need to make sure you’re prepared for the work that’s ahead of you. This work isn’t easy, otherwise everyone would do it and we’d all be thriving in our relationships…and clearly, that’s not the case. So the first thing we will do is get crystal clear about what your goals are and then ensure you have the right mindset to reach that goal.

Step Two: Identifying the fears that keep you stuck and learn how to manage your thoughts and fears.

Step Three: Learn how your thoughts, beliefs and emotions drive your behavior and how that’s been impacting your relationships so you can change it. Also, how to use emotions in a productive way to guide your life.

Begin incorporating the tools you’re learning into your life and into your marriage so that you can gather the most important pieces of information

Step Four: Understand how your physical body contains wisdom and how to trust yourself again. You actually can feel your way to the right decisions for your life, rather than thinking your way through your decisions.

Step Five: Identify the patterns that repeatedly impact your marriage and how old wounds can sabotage your efforts at creating and sustaining happy, healthy relationships.

Plus, you will identify your role in the creation of your relationship experiences so that you can see a deeper truth about the root cause of the troubles in your marriage and make commitments to yourself to do it differently in the future. When you change from within, everything in your environment changes.

Step Six: Forgive and release the resentments from past relationships so they’re not carried into future relationships (either the renewed relationship with your husband or a new, future relationship).

We will solidify the lessons and gifts received from our most important and impactful relationships.

Step Seven: Determine if another, renewed version of your marriage can emerge now that you are equipped with more tools and knowledge than you had previously or if it’s time to acknowledge that the relationship is complete and begin taking the steps necessary to un-wind the relationship.

You will begin to see clearly how when you change and alter your own responses, the reaction you receive from your husband also changes and that reaction, provides you some incredibly important information.

If the answer is to end the marriage, you will begin taking the small action steps to gently communicate with your husband where your heart lies so that he’s not blindsided (and you’re not initiating a bitter, nasty separation filled with anger and hate).

Step Eight: You will identify how you want to feel in your most important relationship and how to create that for yourself. You will know how to set healthy, loving boundaries, teaching people how to treat you, primarily based upon how you treat yourself.

You will know what it means to take responsibility for your own happiness and how to do that on a day-to-day basis, no longer looking for others to do what you need them to do so that you can feel good in your life and surround yourself with loving relationships.

It’s an Investment in Your Heart.
It's an Investment in Your Most Important Relationship.
It’s an Investment in You.

Yes, there’s a path we follow. That’s because I’m taking you through a proven series of steps that will get you where you want to be – the same steps that hundreds of my coaching clients have taken and experienced results with.

But the individual steps we take will be all yours.

What would knowing you had done everything you could before walking away from a marriage or committed relationship be worth to you?

What would it be worth to no longer drown in doubt and regret at the thought of your relationship?

What would knowing you could trust yourself again be worth to you?

Based upon your last six months, do you think you are you more likely to get the clarity you need for your marriage if you make an investment in yourself or you continue to do it on your own?

And even if the marriage does not last, what if you could be equipped with the knowledge and tools so that the marriage is unwound gently and peacefully, rather than $60k with lawyers and two years of anger and venom endured by the whole family?

You have the opportunity to invest in yourself and your most important relationship – what’s that worth to you? What’s it worth to you to have a level of peace and clarity so that you can move forward – whether that’s remaining in your marriage and re-connecting or lovingly releasing it?

My coaching engagements require an investment of several thousand dollars.

(Payment plans are available.)

If this is resonating with you, I urge you not wait and here’s why: To give each one of my clients the results they need, I only accept 5 new clients per month so I can pour everything I have into them.

And… we only offer a limited number of Truth & Clarity appointments each month. Ensure your place by completing an online application and scheduling your complimentary Truth & Clarity Session now. It’s the best 45 minutes you have spent on your marriage in awhile.

I’m not asking you to get out your wallet today. I’m asking if you are willing to invest 45 minutes in yourself to see if I can do for you what I’ve done for so many others.

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Still Not Convinced You’re Worth It?

Consider what your most important and intimate relationship has been like for the last 12 months. Has it been getting progressively worse or better? (My guess is you wouldn’t be here if it was getting better…)

Consider where you’ll be 3 months from now if you stay on this path, doing what you’ve been doing – without making an investment in yourself. Do you think that will lead you to a better result based upon the evidence you’ve gathered over the past few months (or even years)?

If not, then perhaps it’s time to try something different. Perhaps it’s time to break the patterns and fears that are keeping you where you are, and to reach out and grab that hand of a guide that can lead you to back home to your heart.

If your child or your best friend needed this kind of help, you would find a way to make it happen for them. Are you willing to do the same for yourself and your heart?

I’m here to help, but it’s up to you to make the first step to demonstrate to yourself (and me) that you know you’re worth an investment of your time to have a 45 minute complimentary Truth & Clarity appointment with a member of my team to see if we should work together.

sptP.S. Remember, I only take 5 new clients per month and I book out several weeks in advance. If you wait, you will stay stuck. Keep doing what you’ve been doing and you’ll continue to get the results you’ve been getting…that’s just how life works.

With much love & light –

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Don’t Just Take My Word for It. Hear what others just like you had to say:
  • I was defeated until I met Sharon! – “When I first reached out to Sharon, I felt defeated and beat myself up daily. I had no idea how to deal with the pain I faced. After working with Sharon only a short time, everything shifted and she has had a dramatic impact on my life.”

    — Becky, Sweet Soul & Confident Mom
  • This is like nothing I’ve done before – “I entered this working relationship with Sharon with some doubt and a little cynicism. I have done therapy over the years and again more recently after experiencing the loss of my 30 year relationship with my husband.

    My work with Sharon is unlike any other. The focus is different. There is a depth to our work that gets to the core of who I am and what I want going forward. Sharon takes a caring and compassionate approach, tempered with accountability and honesty. She calls “bullshit” when it needs to be called and asks questions I’ve never been asked before that triggers thoughts and insights that I have not experienced previously.”

    — Kim, The Phoenix Rising from the Ashes
  • It was out of desperation that I reached out to Sharon. I had completely hit rock bottom and realized that my way of working through my issues was not generating any results.  I felt rejected, completely alone and stuck in a dark place where I no longer wanted to be. I had spent a year trying to “fix” my situation on my own.  It was the most horrible year of my life!  I literally locked myself in my office bawling like a baby, typing her the most pathetic email asking her to talk to me and hoping that she would respond.  In that moment, I chose to make an investment in myself!  

    She fit me into her busy schedule and instantly we connected.  She did not judge me, she did not tell me what she thought I should or should not do.  She told me that in nine weeks she could provide me clarity in regards to my situation, heal my heart and give me hope again. And she did not fail to deliver on her promise.  I gave her all of me working the program faithfully for nine weeks and in return, I came out with tools to help me navigate through difficult situations, clarity with my situation, a healed heart and I am extremely hopeful for my future.

    The decision to invest in myself set me free from pain and darkness. 

    Sharon is truly an amazing woman, coach and now friend. 

    — Gemma, Mom with a Heart of Gold
  • I’m finally ready for what I want out of life – “I understand that not all men are willing to step up to the plate and do this kind of self-discovery work. You ultimately hold the bat but a life coach, like any mentor, will guide you, challenge you, bring you back when you go off track and ultimately sharpen your game.

    Through my work with Sharon, I gained clarity in all aspects of my life. I now know what I want in a relationship and I’m no longer willing to settle for anything less. I know the kind of man and father I want to be each day, I know what I want to do in the next phase of my life and I know how to achieve it.

    Sharon was in my corner, listening, guiding and teaching me the tools to work out my own problems, find my own answers and walk my own journey. We all can do that ourselves, but without a coach like Sharon your struggle can be longer and more difficult than it needs to be.

    It’s worth the investment in yourself, after all – it’s your life! Just put your hand up, be willing to step up to the plate. She’ll pitch, you just have to swing.”

    — Peter, Courage & Heart as Big as His Vision
  • So difficult to put into words the gift you placed in my lap -“When I signed up to talk to Sharon, I was wallowing in doubt and uncertainty, struggling with the conflict between my gut instincts and that voice in my head……

    By the end of the 8 weeks…. Sharon had guided me to the place I knew I needed to be…she gave me practical tools that WORK and now I am well on my path to a true friendship with myself giving myself the priceless gifts of peace and clarity. I am forever grateful for having met and worked with my wonderful friend Sharon Pope!”

    — Cynthia, Thankful Heart & Courageous Soul
  • I Can’t NOT Afford this! – I was stuck and couldn’t move forward. I felt I couldn’t afford the session and overnight realized that I could not afford to pass by his chance, to work with this woman who I somehow felt could get me through this. Within 2 sessions, I no longer feel stuck but strong and ready to open my heart again for a new beginning! She is amazing, skilled and has been there. 

    — Mary, Strong & Trusting Spirit
  • I am beyond grateful! – I had a, straw that broke the camel’s back moment that gave me the extra push I needed to begin working with Sharon.  I was tired of feeling lonely and stagnant. After working with her for the past three months I no longer feel “stuck” and TRULY feel optimistic about my future and believe that I can achieve what I desire. The tools she taught me helped me to take control of my life.   I am beyond grateful for her guidance!  

    — Karen, Beautifully Brave & Hopeful Again
  • Absolutely Priceless! – Every session with Sharon was “life-changing.” I felt like I was taking giant steps!  Best thing I have ever done for myself.

    — Linda S, Pursuer of Healthy Mind, Body, Heart, Soul and Spirit