WALKING AWAY AND MOVING ON

What if You No Longer Want to Try?

What if You No Longer Want to Try?

“Sometimes walking away has nothing to do with weakness, and everything to do with strength. We walk away not because we want others to realize our worth and value, but because we finally realize...

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Are You Caught in a Rip Tide?

Are You Caught in a Rip Tide?

“Not everything that is faced can be changed; but nothing can be changed until it is faced.” James Baldwin Living near the ocean we hear a lot about rip currents, also known as rip tides and...

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I Stayed Longer Than I Should Have

I Stayed Longer Than I Should Have

“The best time to do something significant is between yesterday and tomorrow.” Zig Ziglar I once had a client who was hard on herself for staying longer than she should have in her marriage. The...

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When You’re Just Done

When You’re Just Done

“Sometimes you just have to be done. Not mad, not upset. Just done.” Unknown My client’s husband had cheated, but she was trying to work through that… Her husband was drinking a lot, but she wanted...

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My Marriage is Over

My Marriage is Over

“neither of us is happy but neither of us wants to leave so we keep breaking one another and calling it love.” -Rupi Kaur, Milk and Honey One of my clients recently shared with me an analogy of how...

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Not All Men Are “Good Men”

“I will not stay, not ever again - in a room or conversation or relationship or institution that requires me to abandon myself.” Glennon Doyle ***You know how some videos come with a warning about...

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Waiting for Change

It was about this time last year that my client, Suzanne, was waiting for her daughter to graduate before confronting her husband about his affair. She didn’t want that drama impacting her...

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I’m Stuck. Is That True?

“You have to stop thinking that you’ll be stuck in your current situation forever…Don’t confuse a season, for a lifetime.” Brittney Moses I’ve heard several reports recently referencing how the call...

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Say “Thank You”

“Dear God, thank you for the baby brother, but what I prayed for was a puppy.” Children’s Letters to God   Over the weekend, I was re-watching one of the old Super Soul Sunday episodes where...

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Sounding the Alarm Bells on Gaslighting

“Lies don’t end relationships, the truth does.” Shannon L. Alder Psychology Today tells us that “gaslighting is a form of persistent manipulation and brain washing that causes the victim to doubt...

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The Intensity of Pain

“Never be ashamed of how deeply and passionately you loved someone who destroyed you, because destroying things is just who they are…and loving things deeply and passionately is who you are.” ...

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Ten Tips to Divorce Differently

“What if I didn’t blame the other person for anything, and held myself 100 percent accountable? What if I checked my own s--- at the door and put my children first? What if I reminded myself of the...

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All Love Matters…Even When It Ends

All Love Matters…Even When It Ends

When my client, who I’ll refer to as Vicky began working with me, she was trying to determine if there was any hope for her marriage that had been on the ropes for years. They were separated and...

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Divorce and Our Emotions

“It can be difficult, if not impossible, for many divorced people to ever rest in a state of pure grief, pure anger, or pure relief when it comes to feelings about one’s ex-spouse. Instead, the...

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The One Who Broke My Heart

“The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it.” Nicholas Sparks   Michael was tall, broad-shouldered, muscular and devilishly handsome. He had a smile that lit...

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Have I Outgrown My Relationship?

“Some people we just outgrow. Relationships might end with no real explanation as to why. And when that happens, respect the shift. Honor the growth and understand that not all roots can stay...

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How to Have a Drama-Free Breakup

I was in love. It wasn’t an easy, nurturing, soulful love. It was the kind of love that rocks your foundation and leaves you feeling consumed. He was the first thing I thought about when I woke up...

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When Your Ex is Ruining Your Life

“As you think, so shall you be.” Wayne W. Dyer   Samantha is a new client whose ex is ruining her life. She bravely shared with me the story of her life with her ex-husband of more than seven...

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What if There’s Never Any Closure?

“Those things we can’t find closure on, they haunt us. They pop up in our dreams, and creep into our thoughts in idle moments…” Lisa Unger   Kristen and her husband were together for 11 years....

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The Battle between the Heart and Mind

“…just as darkness is nothing but the absence of light, so fear is nothing but the absence of love.” Marianne Williamson   Alena had been divorced over a year. Everyone told her the first year...

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What if I’m Alone Forever?

“Your next relationship will be different because you are different.” Sharon Pope, Soulful Truth Telling: Disbelieving the Lies that Keep Us from the Love We Desire   Many women find me when...

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You Can Trust Yourself Again

“Everything you want lies on the other side of learning to trust yourself.” Vironika Tugaleva   One of the things that will keep women stuck in solitude after a divorce, I’ve found, is a fear...

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Was My Ex a Narcissist?

“Narcissists can make you fall in love with them so hard that it feels like you’re giving up a part of your heart to leave them.”  Dr. Judith Orloff I’ve often said that “One day I’ll write about...

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The Support of Girlfriends

“There must be those among whom we can sit down and weep, and still be counted as warriors.” Adrienne Rich, Sources   Six years ago when I went through a series of incredibly painful breakups,...

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The Reason Why He Left

“When your heart is broken, there’s an opening…a small space…for the light to get through.”  Sharon Pope To date, there has been nothing in my life that caused me more pain than when I had my heart...

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3 Ways to Stay Stuck

“If you feel stuck in your present life…I guarantee you are living in a dungeon made of stories – and none of those limiting stories are true.” Martha Beck, Steering by Starlight When I’m speaking...

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Breakups are a Gift

“Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift.” Mary Oliver When hearts are broken, it hurts. I’ve lost jobs. I’ve lost friendships....

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The Breakthrough after a Breakup

“Each of our paths is uniquely perfect. Life presents us with what we need to grow.” Judith Orloff, M.D. The Ecstasy of Surrender She was crying daily, uncontrollably, in front of clients and behind...

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