Seek This Before Deciding to Leave Your Marriage

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Seek This Before Deciding to Leave Your Marriage

Seek This Before Deciding to Leave Your Marriage

When faced with major life decisions, it’s natural to take time to ensure the right one is made. Weighing the pros and cons, making lists, asking other’s opinions, doing extensive research, reading online reviews—all part of the process.

What do we do when we’re struggling with the life-changing decision of whether or not to leave our marriages?

This decision isn’t made with research and reviews. This one involves your heart more than your head. To make matters even more complicated, it also involves not only your future, but the future and the happiness of others—including your husband who may ...continue reading...

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The Secret Wellness Tool that Will Help You Get Through Divorce

Divorce is a loss. It is a loss of a relationship, of course, but it is also a loss of a dream you once held. It may be a loss of an identity. You may lose friendships and you’ll certainly lose money. But one of the other surprising things you lose in divorce is your sense of real clarity in your life.

It’s like a fog has rolled in and you know the bridge is there connecting the life you had with the life you’re moving towards, but you can’t see it.

That’s why the most valuable wellness tool ...continue reading...

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Are the Empty Nest Blues Placing Your Marriage at Risk?

There’s a growing epidemic spreading its way across the nation with a bullseye aimed directly on couples whose kids have flown the coop.   No, it’s not health issues, retirement money worries, or employment challenges. It’s divorce.   The National Center for Family and Marriage Research at Bowling Green State University reports that divorce rates for couples over 50 years old have more than doubled in recent years.   More than doubled.   When the pressures of raising a family wane, why do our marriages implode?   After years of marriage, do we just lose interest in our partners? ...continue reading...
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Conventional Wisdom Doesn’t Work in Our Relationships

“Conventional wisdom is no wisdom at all. Conventional wisdom is taking someone else’s word for the way things are.” Richard Marcinko

 

When our marriage or most intimate relationship seems like it’s falling apart, we fall back on conventional wisdom to help guide us.

Just spend more time together…

Ride it out; it will pass…

You have to begin touching, hugging, kissing each other again…

Go to couples counseling…

Schedule a date night…

Plan a romantic getaway together…

Give him a dose of his own medicine…

Ignore it and maybe the problem will disappear…

But if any of that ...continue reading...

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Why Do So Many Second and Third Marriages End?

“It’s easy to blame others when things are broken. The hard part is recognizing the part you played in it all.” Unknown Author

 

Here are the unbelievable stats about marriage and divorce*:

40%-50% of first marriages end in divorce 67% of second marriages end in divorce 74% of third marriages end in divorce

The rates of divorce increase pretty dramatically for second and third marriages.

That’s not a coincidence.

Here’s why:

When your first marriage falls apart, the fairy-tale one that you thought would last forever, most people genuinely believe the problems were a result of their spouse’s ...continue reading...

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Does He Have Something to Hide

“Questions are only offensive to those who have something to hide.” Gary Hopkins

 

I see it all the time with my clients, particularly those that are struggling with trying to figure out if they should stay or go in their relationship and worry that their partner has something to hide.

They suspect he’s not being truthful, but they have no real proof of that.

They go looking for proof – snooping, cell phone records, drive-bys, even GPS trackers on their cars or phones. They go looking for proof because they don’t trust their guts that have been talking ...continue reading...

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The 10 Minute Marriage Fix

Every single day I hear from women,

“I’d like to fix my marriage, but I don’t know how…”

“We’ve been struggling for so long, I don’t even know if it can be fixed…”

“If he’s not willing to work on it with me, then what’s the point?”

And then there’s women that aren’t really sure they want to fix their marriage, but they also don’t want to live with years of regret if they make the wrong decision.

So, here it is……

My 3 best pieces of advice if you’ve been struggling in ...continue reading...

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Your Relationship Scorecard

“The minute you start keeping score, you’re destroying the relationship.” Tony Robbins

 

She became controlling, but he shut down and became distant.

She stopped wanting to be physical, but he cheated.

He felt unappreciated, but she felt unloved.

Sometimes in relationships we keep a mental scorecard of all the ways our partner has hurt us. We tuck those instances into a virtual file in our minds that we use to justify our own choices and behaviors. We use those pieces of evidence to remind ourselves to guard our hearts, to not fully give ourselves to our partners because ...continue reading...

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Are You the Weakest Link in Your Relationship?

“…hearts are not like hands. two isn’t

better than one when the other is broken.”

Alexandra Elle

 

We enter into most relationships ill-equipped.

Both you and your partner learned things that don’t serve either of you:

Be soft, but not too soft. Be strong, but not too strong. It’s selfish to put your needs before everyone else… He was taught to achieve, to excel, to drive hard in the direction of what he wanted. Don’t show emotion; be a man. Be the provider and the one who didn’t need anyone or anything… ...continue reading...
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What a Shame.

“Between what is said and not meant, and what is meant and not said, most of love is lost.” Khalil Gibran

He is a good man. He was raised by his grandmother and taught to be honest and responsible. He cares deeply about people, loves his children more than life itself and prioritizes relationships and experiences above things every day of the week. Plus he’s handsome, with soft blue eyes….

But he and his wife are struggling. The stress of daily life, working to pay the bills and raise a family has taken its toll on them as a ...continue reading...

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