“Settling for crumbs keeps you starving.” Danielle LaPorte
Rebecca was in a relationship for five years with Matthew and she had assumed that their next step would be marriage. But there were some long-standing problems in their relationship that had become undeniable:
Matthew was still in a relationship with his ex-wife, the mother of his children. He said they were just friends co-parenting together, but if that were really true, why was he spending so much time with her? And why was her gut telling there was much more to that story?
When Matthew’s three children spent time ...continue reading...
“(on love) It’s the only thing that allows men and women to stand in a world where gravity always seems to want to pull them down…bring them low…and make them crawl.” Stephen King
I was asked to co-author an article this week on WhatMenReallyThink.com – entitled, “The Most Important Thing a Man Wants in a Woman. 14 Relationship Experts Share Their Insights.”
I was looking for some outside inspiration and posed the question on my Facebook page. The feedback I got was amazing and a bit surprising. Some of the best traits men listed were, confidence, connection, trust, respect, ...continue reading...
“You cannot have a happy ending to an unhappy journey.” Abraham-Hicks
Yesterday I was interviewed by Jim Masters, a successful TV and Radio Personality and Host of CUTV News and we talked about the only way to create real change in troubled relationships.
The 30 minute interview went quickly and the conversation was fun and easy. But my insight came after the interview was over and we were just talking.
He was telling me about a conversation he was having with a friend who had achieved a great deal of success in life by almost anyone’s standards; it ...continue reading...
“If you would be different, I would feel better.” Abraham-Hicks
If there is one teaching I have learned throughout the years that has made the greatest difference in my life and my most important relationships, it is this:
“If you would be different, I would feel better.”
I know it’s not intuitive, so let me explain and give this life for you so you can benefit as I did……
If I walked up to virtually any woman on the street and asked her, “Can you change a man?” My guess is that 90% of ...continue reading...
“I don’t know why we all hang onto something we know we’d be better off letting go of. It’s like we’re scared to lose what we don’t even really have. Some of us say we’d rather have something than absolutely nothing, but the truth is, to have it halfway is harder than not having it at all.” Meredith Grey, Grey’s Anatomy
Maggie reached out to me in tears, trying to overcome the loss of a relationship with a man that she deeply loved. She shared with me that she had never felt so connected to someone and now ...continue reading...
“The softness of a person’s nature doesn’t mean weakness, because nothing is softer than water but its force can break the strongest rocks.” Syed Mustafa Faraz Ahmad
I know a lot of strong women.
I was raised by one.
I am one myself.
Some of the greatest changes in the world were a result of women’s efforts.
I could argue that the world would literally shut down if it weren’t for strong women showing up for themselves and others every day.
There’s a reason that women are the ones who can create and give birth to new life; ...continue reading...
“Exhausted, I started to check out of our marriage, convinced that what we had was fine. After all, our lives looked pretty good from the outside.” Sharon Pope, Keeping the Boardroom Out of the Bedroom
Today is a big deal for me today and I wanted to share this with you. I have had my very first piece published in The New York Times’ Modern Love column:
Even though this was years ...continue reading...
“The results you achieve will be in direct proportion to the effort you apply.” Denis Waitley
Anne reached out to me and said, “I’ve tried everything. I meditate, I journal, I’ve read dozens of self-help books, I read relationship blog posts and online articles every single day, and nothing is working. Nothing is making me feel less sad and nothing seems to improve my relationship with my husband. Is this marriage just doomed? Should I give up?”
We understand why people stay stuck in struggling relationships when they don’t seek help and think that maybe over time, things ...continue reading...
“Throughout our lives we long to love ourselves more deeply and to feel connected with others. Instead, we often contract, fear intimacy, and suffer a bewildering sense of separation. We crave love, and yet we are lonely.” Sharon Salzberg
A beautiful soul named Lori reached out to me this week and the email started like this, “I just opened the door for a conversation with my husband…through text of all things because he and I have never been much to communicate….I asked him if he was happy. I asked him if he thought our marriage was salvageable…”
“If you want a guarantee, buy a toaster.” Clint Eastwood
Donna has been with her husband for 30 years, married 28 years. He’s all she has ever known. They have two kids together, who are now grown and building lives of their own.
Donna has been struggling in her marriage for a while, feeling incredibly lonely, but she never seriously considered leaving or trying to make it better. After all, her parents have been married for 55 years and that’s what she had always envisioned for her own life as well. This was a pain she knew…
Until ...continue reading...