Why Your Relationships (Even the Bad Ones) Lead to Spiritual Growth

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Why Your Relationships (Even the Bad Ones) Lead to Spiritual Growth

Why Your Relationships (Even the Bad Ones) Lead to Spiritual Growth

We read an endless supply of books that teach us how to be the most authentic version of ourselves. We go deep within to understand our needs, desires and longings. We become open to exploring things like meditation and yoga, if we think there’s the potential for finding peace.

But if you really want to grow and evolve in your journey, look no further than your closest personal relationships.

The people we are closest to (and specifically our relationships with those people) are the greatest teachers for our lives. Each one of our relationships powerfully reflects back to us all ...continue reading...

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How to Admit Your Role in a Failed Relationship (without Blaming Yourself)

When a relationship “fails,” it’s easy to look back on it with blame and shame. We want to point fingers and attribute the pain to external forces (more often than not, by blaming our exes). But the truth is, every relationship is a dynamic. So when that dynamic spirals into dysfunction, we need to recognize our part.

Let’s take an example to explore what I’m talking about further. Caren had a belief that all men leave. And she had good reason to believe this: her father left her mother and the family when she was five years old. In her ...continue reading...

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What to Do when Your Relationship with a Narcissist (Inevitably) Falls Apart

A woman I’ll call Bethany got in touch with me asking for help. She was 47 years old, had two children, and had been married for 23 years to a man with significant narcissistic tendencies. Although their marriage had never been great, the last decade was brutal.

The more time we spent together, the more I learned about their dynamic. He would manipulate her to suit his own desires, withholding love and attention until she finally gave in. He lied pathologically and made no apologies for having multiple affairs or drinking and gambling too much.

She had felt so ...continue reading...

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When Temporary Separation from Your Partner is a Good Thing

I’m a love coach and I speak to women every single day who are struggling in their relationships. Recently, my client, Sara called me in tears, and articulated something I identified with: “I feel like I’m living in the movie Groundhog Day, where every day is the same painful experience with my husband over and over again. Something has to change.”

Or take my client, Kacey, who sent me a text the moment that she had the following realization, “I think my marriage is over. I feel frozen.”

And my client, Vivian, who is currently breaking up with her ...continue reading...

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I Stayed in the Wrong Marriage for 11 Years

I had a kind and handsome husband. We lived in a four-bedroom home in a suburban golf community. We had nice cars, took vacations and had a wide circle of friends and loving families. I had a good corporate job with a pension and a 401k. We had one dog and no children.

I had no reason to be unhappy or lonely. But I was.

I met my husband in graduate school at the age of 24 and I knew he wouldn’t lie, cheat, or leave me, as past boyfriends had done. But what I didn’t know then is ...continue reading...

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What I Know about Love from Being in the Wrong Marriage

I was married to a perfectly nice, stable man for 11 years. Safe and picture-perfect from the outside, my marriage still left me feeling lonely and disconnected inside.When I left my marriage in my late 30s, I attempted to navigate the dating terrain, making more than my fair share of mistakes. I fell in love with men that didn’t deserve that gift, and had my heart broken more than once. I cried more in the 12 months that followed than I had my entire life.

Being broken wide open, I had no choice but to create space ...continue reading...

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Four Reasons Why I Make No Apologies for My Price

“The best investment you can make is in yourself.” Warren Buffett

 

I am not an inexpensive coach. And I make no apologies for that. Here’s why…

What you’re investing in is the result. Not my time. Not the value of the tools. Not my background, education or experience. Although all those things contribute to the result, what you’re investing in is a proven process to get you The Result.

Want to fix your marriage? What would that be worth to you to wake up each day feeling good about your husband, your marriage and the kind of relationship you’re ...continue reading...
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Stop Engaging in “The Crazy.”

“When you see crazy coming, cross the street.” Iyanla Vanzant

 

Some weeks there are consistent themes across my clients, similarities in the struggles or challenges they’re facing, making it very clear what I need to write about. This was one of those weeks.

Here’s just one example:

Lynn is in the process of unwinding an abusive and controlling marriage that has taken its toll on her self-esteem, her value and worth and also on the relationship she has with her family and her children. She has expressed to her husband that she does not want him sleeping in ...continue reading...

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How Is This Possible In Coaching?

“What is now proved, was only once imagined.” William Blake

 

I’m in a coaching session with my new client Eve. She tells me about how she used to be so brave in her life, traveling to different parts of the world, running a marathon, even learning to fly an airplane(!).

She’s wondering how she got to this place where she feels genuinely lost after spending the last 12 years in marriage that never felt good from the start.

She’s wondering how she became so disconnected from herself.

And she’s been wondering what happened to that brave woman…and she ...continue reading...

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  1. Thank you for all your information. Its inspiring and brings me hope. I’ll continue to follow your free information as I am in an unfortunate financial bind. Thank you agin for your encouraging words.

    My best,
    Heather Harris

    by Heather Harris on August 8th, 2017 at 7:11 pm
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Too Little. Too Late.

“The longest journey you will make is the 18 inches from your head to your heart.” Moikanos

 

For months you’ve wanted to feel like a priority in his life…more important than work, more important than golf, and more important than his buddies or football or drinking…

For years, you’ve wanted to feel like you have a partner in this life and in this marriage and not feel like you have to manage everything all on your own, all the time…

And for at least a decade you’ve wanted him to show you some affection, some attention, something that ...continue reading...

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  1. This brought me to tears this morning as I read it.
    I literally asked God for a sign in a direction to go and this article popped up which is exactly where I have been stuck for the past year.
    Thank you so so much.

    by Julie cauvin on August 4th, 2017 at 9:37 am
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