She’s Not Going to Do What You Want Her to Do

If You Keep Doing the Same Thing, You Should Expect the Same Result.

She’s Not Going to Do What You Want Her to Do

She’s Not Going to Do What You Want Her to Do

I was on a call recently with a man who shared with me the frustrations he’s feeling in his marriage:

She just doesn’t get it…

What she’s doing isn’t right…

I’ve told her 100 times…


Those people in our lives….. Our spouses…Our children…Our mothers-in-law…Our parents…Our friends…

Life would just be so much easier if they would just do what we want them to do…

Wouldn’t it?


News Flash:

They’re not going to do what you want them to do.

They’re going to do what they want to do.


Here’s why:

If I put a pillow over your face, what would you do?

You’d probably fight like hell to get the pillow removed from your face…wouldn’t you?


When we are trying to get someone to do what WE want, we are placing a metaphorical pillow over their faces and they’re going to fight like hell to get it off their face so they can breathe. That’s just natural human behavior.

At a minimum, they’re going to drag their feet or ignore your request. But they might become obstinate and do the exact opposite of what you want them to do…..because, well……the pillow.

Plus, no one else was put on the planet to live their existence according to your rules. Not a single person; not even your spouse. No one wants to feel as though they’re a puppet in your play. They came into this life to create their own play.

Which gives you two options:

  • Continue to cause yourself an enormous amount of suffering attempting to get your partner to do as you want them to do, driving the two of you further and further apart, or…
  • Change your thoughts and feelings about why you think you need her to do as you want her to do and give your relationship a chance.

What if I told you….

That you can feel peace in your marriage…

That you can keep the desires and dreams that you have for your marriage…

That you can create fertile ground for closeness and intimacy to occur…

Without your spouse bending to your will.

If you’re ready to learn how to do that for yourself, then let’s hop on a call to see if there’s a fit for us to work together. This could just be the best 45 minutes you’ve invested in yourself in a long, long time.


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